[leakaye]

Hi all,
I have been attending a monthly bparent support group. It's helped, a lot. I feel now that I have a designated time to grieve, instead of feeling upset and grieving at any random moment. I feel I can talk about my pain amoungst women who understand exactly how I feel.
There are a couple of girls in my group that had their children forced from them because they have mental health problems. It's sad to hear about them, because it wasn't their choice, their children were just taken from them. Although it was probably for the best, they are so angry and live their lives in regret. Doesn't sound too far off from how I feel sometimes. I wish sometimes that I was strong enough then.
More recently however these negative thoughts and feelings have been less and less. I have kept myself so busy, work, college, wedding plans, raising my daughter. I have no time to grieve, which is good.
I have made a bmom friend at the group, I am going to get in touch with her through the group mediator and see if she wants to help me go shopping for PJ's birthday present.
I just wanted all of you out there who are struggling to get in touch with a group, don't be shy, it has helped me so much.
Thanks. Lea

[Jannyroo]

Originally Posted by leakaye

Hi all,
I have been attending a monthly bparent support group. It's helped, a lot. I feel now that I have a designated time to grieve, instead of feeling upset and grieving at any random moment. I feel I can talk about my pain amoungst women who understand exactly how I feel.

.... I wish sometimes that I was strong enough then.
More recently however these negative thoughts and feelings have been less and less. I have kept myself so busy, work, college, wedding plans, raising my daughter. I have no time to grieve, which is good.
I have made a bmom friend at the group....
I just wanted all of you out there who are struggling to get in touch with a group, don't be shy, it has helped me so much.
Thanks. Lea

thanks for your post Lea, I have struggled through 29 years and not feel able to join one, but with a little coaxing from my counsellor I've had since October last year, I now feel that maybe, just maybe, I may be able to do it. There's one in September and its quite a distance away, but I think I will try it, so thanks for your encouragement.

... and by the way, you say you have no time to grieve and that is good... I think I know what you mean. I get fedup of grieving and the tears and the waking up in the early hours and not being able to settle and after 15 months of it, I want to put it aside as it interupts the flow of my life so much and I've had enough of it!!! so if thats what you mean, then I understand you!

[Scarlet Moon 13]

Originally Posted by leakaye

Hi all,
I have been attending a monthly bparent support group. It's helped, a lot. I feel now that I have a designated time to grieve, instead of feeling upset and grieving at any random moment. I feel I can talk about my pain amoungst women who understand exactly how I feel.
There are a couple of girls in my group that had their children forced from them because they have mental health problems. It's sad to hear about them, because it wasn't their choice, their children were just taken from them. Although it was probably for the best, they are so angry and live their lives in regret. Doesn't sound too far off from how I feel sometimes. I wish sometimes that I was strong enough then.
More recently however these negative thoughts and feelings have been less and less. I have kept myself so busy, work, college, wedding plans, raising my daughter. I have no time to grieve, which is good.
I have made a bmom friend at the group, I am going to get in touch with her through the group mediator and see if she wants to help me go shopping for PJ's birthday present.
I just wanted all of you out there who are struggling to get in touch with a group, don't be shy, it has helped me so much.
Thanks. Lea

Imagine having your baby taken for no other reason, then for the moment in time, you were too young.

No drugs, no mental problems, no nothing. I never skipped school, I didn't run around, I never went to a party.

Just becasue your were 15 when you got pregnant, and 16 when you delivered.


Is that really a good enough reason to force someone to give up a baby?

I don't think so, you get older each day, and you are never the same after your child is gone.

Is it really so long ago that they did this to girls?

My bson will be here next week with his sons. Just for a short visit.

Reunited 10 years this fall.

[leakaye]

Originally Posted by Scarlet Moon 13

Imagine having your baby taken for no other reason, then for the moment in time, you were too young.

No drugs, no mental problems, no nothing. I never skipped school, I didn't run around, I never went to a party.

Just becasue your were 15 when you got pregnant, and 16 when you delivered.


Is that really a good enough reason to force someone to give up a baby?

I don't think so, you get older each day, and you are never the same after your child is gone.

Is it really so long ago that they did this to girls?

My bson will be here next week with his sons. Just for a short visit.

Reunited 10 years this fall.

Hum, not sure how that had anything to do with bparent support groups. I went throught the same thing you did, only 6 years ago. Things haven't changed, I do understand what you are going through. Glad you are now reunited. Take care. Lea

[leakaye]

Originally Posted by Jannyroo

thanks for your post Lea, I have struggled through 29 years and not feel able to join one, but with a little coaxing from my counsellor I've had since October last year, I now feel that maybe, just maybe, I may be able to do it. There's one in September and its quite a distance away, but I think I will try it, so thanks for your encouragement.

... and by the way, you say you have no time to grieve and that is good... I think I know what you mean. I get fedup of grieving and the tears and the waking up in the early hours and not being able to settle and after 15 months of it, I want to put it aside as it interupts the flow of my life so much and I've had enough of it!!! so if thats what you mean, then I understand you!

Wow, your very brave. I'm sure you will feel secure in these groups. No one judges you. But do remember, although we are all flowing down the same river, we are all riding in different boats.

Take care, big hugs!