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Originally Posted By Keree

Hello,

The first birthday of my son that i gave up for adoption is in a month. I have been pretty good emotionally so far....but i have been told that is because i am still in denial. I dont know how the day will make me feel and i am very scared. I was wondering if anyone could give me some advice on how to deal with it. Anything can help. Thank you.

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Originally Posted By birthmom Jamie

The day of the birth will play in your mind like you are watching a video. The birthday was much easier for me than the day that my bson had to leave the hospital without me.I was with him for 3 days because I had a c-section.Each one of those days are just as intense as the other.I thought of how glad that I was to spend those 3 precious days with him & get to know him before he went home.You will need time ALONE on these days to grieve especially when the momment of seperation accures. This is a good time to start a tradition to celebrate his birth in your own way.Buy him a card, light a candle or something.I found myself in a hospital chappel that day & lit a candle for him. God understands my pain & helps so much.Read the poem (My Childs Birthday) on these boards, on the adoption communities board under poetry. his afamily will be thinking of you on this special day also.In a few years he will be thinking of you also on his birthday & wondering if you think about him.

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Originally Posted By Jennifer

I was really frightened as to how I would deal with my son's first birthday . I thought I would be extremely sad and lost in misery. I spent his birthday in the hospital with my three week old nephew. My nephew had a form of cancer and had to have surgery. I talked a lot that day with my sister-in-law, who was so frightened that her child may not live. That experience made me so greatful that my son is alive and healthy. I miss him a great deal, but I thank God that he is doing well.

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Originally Posted By Briar birthmom

My son will be 7 in January. His a family sends me pictures and makes sure that I get them either before or on his b-day, I wait until the day and then find a quiet place and look at the pictures and re-read all of the letters that I have gotten from them. I embrace the day and celebrate in my own special way. I love my son and his adoptive family. I am proud of the choices that I have made for my son, and for myself. Happy mother's day to all .