[unselfish_love]

I am new to this forum.

I am a birthmother who's son was adopted at birth 25 years ago (closed adoption). We have since found each other. He was adopted by a friend of my families and this was kept a secret from me until 3 years ago..long story.

I do not have any contact with his aparents as they seem to have "no reason to meet me"!!!!

How did you go about meeting the aparents and what kind of relationship do you have with them?

thanks,
unselfish_love

[PastorStephanie]

You wrote that "we have since found each other". Do you mean that you and your bson have made contact? I am wondering because if not, then I would suggest that your first move be to contact him- not his aparents, as he is a 25 year old man.

If you already have some contact with your bson... then I would recommend asking him how and when to approach his aparents. As an adoptee, I am NOT ready to have my bmom connect with my amom... but that could just be me.

I wish you all the best with you bson and his afamily!

[unselfish_love]

Yes, we have met 3 years ago.

He lives in an apartment at his aparents house. The problem is he can not tell his a/mother when he is coming to see me. Since he lives at her house, I can not go there.

Since our reunion, I have a new grandson. They come to visit me and when we are in the area where he lives, we usually meet in a restaurant to spend some time together.

I just wish this did not have to be so secretive. I can deal with the fact she does not want to meet me. I guess, I just wish it was more comfortable. KWIM