[momtoabelle]

Hi all…I just need a little support for I am very stressed and confused. Let me start by saying I have a great life. I have a beautiful daughter who is the light of my life, I am almost done with nursing school and I have wonderful friends and family. I am 23 years old and have found myself dealing with an unexpected pregnancy. I am very upset about this for the reason that this is NOT the right time in my life for a new baby. I was on the birth control shot so by the time I found out I was pregnant it was way to late to consider any other options. I have decided on adoption and I feel very guilty for not struggling with this decision. I am very far along and feel so foolish for not knowing I was pregnant sooner. I did not receive early prenatal care and I went out drinking after I finished my first semester of nursing school. I have not told anyone yet and I just needed to talk and have some support. Thanks so much for listening

[Mommy24]

Welcome to the forums Momtoabelle!! We have all felt what you are feeling at one time or another, you will find great support here! I am a birthmom, my bson is 15, I had a semi open adoption exchanging pictures and letters for the first 7 years of his life, have you spoken to anyone about adoption? Just a reminder that the forums do not allow potential adoptive parents to solicit you here, please report any private messages if this should happen, we want to make sure this is a safe place for you to find support Please feel free to PM me if you need a shoulder to lean on and Congratulations on becoming a mom the second time around


Hugs* Michelle

[teaspoon]

momtoabelle,
welcome! I can understand how you are feeling. I didn't find out I was pregnant until I was 28 weeks and I also felt guilty about not getting prenatal care and about drinking. And I felt like such an idiot being so far along without realizing it.

*hugs*

[vera19]

momtoabelle,

Its not uncommon to find out late in the pregnancy that you're pregnant..so dont beat yourself up about that. You dont need that added stress right now.

Im a birthmom of my birth daughter is now almost 2 years old..and im currently pregnant... and i am very excited cuz i plan on parenting.

Congradulations, on almost completing nursing school..thats great!!! Of course i cant persuad you in anyway..on what to choose to do..all i can say is that if you havent already you really need to find an adoption agency so you can talk to a professional and go through some decision making with a consellor. You want to make sure that if you decide to go through with an adoption that you wont regret it. I regret placing my birthdaughter for adoption but thats only cuz i know that placing wasnt right...and i had no support around me.. i was told that i "couldnt do it", and "that parenting was too hard". Im not telling you either way..i just want you to seek the help you need with an agency so you will actually know better of what the processes are like..and that you will have a better understanding.

No Matter what you choose...we are always here for you. Feel free to PM me anytime if you need someone to talk to. Keep talking on here for some support..i know it helps...it helps me ALOT

[Mommy24]

Mommatoabelle, Please seek counseling outside of the agency, and please again dont hesitate to let us know if there is anything we can do to help