[Tigger27]

As some of you know, I've been working on a book on and off that has to do with birthparent/adoption grief. I had this post up a while ago and thought that I'd put it up again and give everyone a chance to share their responses with me to the questionnaire below.

I am welcome to any and all input in response to the questions, I will post below for you to answer. If you are okay with me using what you say in the book then please let me know it's okay. If you don't want your real name used then tell me and I will put a different name to protect your confidentiality and privacy.

Also, you can just write/type up your responses and e-mail them to me at allieandanna@hotmail.com.

Questionnaire

1) Where are you at post placement? As in how far out, 1 month, 2 months, 20 years, etc.

2) Describe your grief, as it is now and as it was in the beginning, in general? (You can write as much or as little as you'd like in response to this question)

3) Was/Is your adoption open, closed or semi-open? How do you think that influenced your grief?

4) How have you dealt with your grief so far? What have been the most effective ways you have found to deal with your grief thus bringing you healing?

5) What are some myths that you may have had to dispel or deal with before you could really grieve? Or perhaps myths that you had a hard time with?

6) What questions do you have about Grief post placement?

7) What do you wish you'd known about grief that you know now?

8) What advice or pointers would you give those who are dealing with grief or going to be dealing with grief post placement?

9) What do you think others (the world) should know about a birthparent's grief?

I apologize if some of the questions seem long or redundant. I just want to make sure I cover certain areas of this topic in writing this book.

Also if you have any recommendations for something you think would be good to include in the book then please let me know. I want to help others and give birthparents a book on grief that is specifically for them, to help them, give them ideas and/or comfort so that they can know it is normal and alright to feel and go through the things they do with grief post placement.

I am writing this book in hopes of it being another good resource for knowledge for people in the world. I think everyone should know and be able to read in a book about what we, as birthparents, experience in grief with adoption post placement. I am hoping to be another voice for birthparents with this book on grief.

Any and all input from all of you would be very helpful for me with this book and I would greatly appreciate it.

Thank you for your time and input.

Anne

[Montraviatommyg]

Bumping up...Pip

[taramayrn]

Anne just wanted to let you know that I will answer your questions, just can't do it right now.

[Tigger27]

Take your time, Tara . I appreciate you taking the time to answer the questions.

[lahdh4]

I plan on answering them as well. Just need some down time to get them together.

[Tigger27]

Great. Feel free to take the time you need .

[bmoms1994]

I am going to email my answers to you also. I just saw this just now.

[Lilacsandroses]

just a bump, so I can find it again...

[SchmennaLeigh]

I don't remember if I did this or not.

[vera19]

I just emailed my questionaire to you..i hope you can find it helpful

[Tigger27]

Thanks so much, Vera. I got your responses and they will definitely be helpful.

I don't think I have any responses in my collection from you, Jenna.

Thanks again to everyone who's been sending me their responses. They're definitely helpful to me .

[irish11970]

Tigger,
I will fill this out and e-mail it to you. Just have to get some quiet time to get it done.

Jenn