[AandKmom]

I am giving a final post to see if anyone in my birthmothers family or friends reads this. I am now 31 and after many, many years of searching I thought that I will give one last try hopefully someone knows her or my info.
I was born Jan 6,1974 at Mountainside Hospital in Glen Ridge NJ.
My birthmother (Nancy) was 17 a high school senior at the time.
She came from a very large Irish catholic family. She was one of 13 brothers and sisters.
My birth grandmother knew about her pregnancy and was there when I was born, and persuaded her to give me up.
My name at birth was Jacine Leigh.
I was adopted through the Childrens Aid and Adoption services, then in Bogota now in Cedar Knolls NJ.
I check this site regularly in hopes to find something or or someone searching for me or reply to my posts but no luck.
If this sounds familiar or if you know of my birthmother or family please email me.

Thanks
Sarah

[dl]

AandKmom ~ Have you checked with Children's Aid and Adoption Services to see if they have a Post Adoption Services Department? The Children's Aid Society that handled my adoption many years ago had this department and a social worker there acted as a confidential intermediary for my biological family and myself.

Good Luck ~dl

[Firstmom]

Don't give up simply because they haven't posted on here. Everyone thinks that this site is the end all be all of adoption resources and it is not. Far from it actually.
The family may not be computer savvy at all.

Searchsystems.net Leave no stone unturned.

Good luck to you and please don't give up.

[Montraviatommyg]

Don't give up, my son was searching for me but I had no idea how to search for him yet I did find him by accident. He had put my details on a website for people researching their family trees and by sheer chance I went onto it and saw my details so emailed him.

Pip

[janiej]

When my son "found" me after 39 years, it had nothing to do with a computer at all. In fact, I did not get my computer until after he found me.

So don't think this is the only place you will "find" her.
Take dl's suggestion and check with the agency where you were placed. That is how my son "found" me.

Best wishes and prayers are with you.

[wordtrix]

I am so sorry. I am a birth mom who placed my daughter in August 2000. I know I would always want to be found.

Terri

My e book about my birth mom experiences ("MacKenzie's Hope") is on Edited under the family heading. It's also listed on adopting.com.

[Seven]

Dear A and K mom


Don't dispair there are many birth family members that for whatever reason don't know how to go about finding their lost family members and there are those who simply feel that though many years have passed since they relinquished a child there still may be some retribution or serious consequence should they attempt to search.
I spent the greater part of ten years posting on many sites and building my own data base in hopes of finding my birth parents and siblings and in the end my greatest resouce was to go back to my original adoption process the agency in which placed me with my Afamily.
This process is long and tedious and has many pitfalls but it does and can work in finding the information and people you for your own reasons wish to find.

In my own case going through the Reunion program provided by each province in Canada mine being the one in Manitoba where I was born and adopted I finally got information, and did make contact with my birth mom. Again you have no knowledge of the experiences of your birth family prior to your birth or after and again your post mentions a strong Irish most likely Catholic background and you would be amazed at how much this factors in to your situation. And again since you are born in the US and adopted in Canada the birth family may not have knowledge of this and could be seeking information on you through the American side. The variables are endless but I will say as others have said go and contact the Children's Aid Society in British Columbia and ask them to put you into the Reunion Registry Program you have nothing to loose and though you have spent much time and years have gone by this is for many of us the best possible resource to utilize. I know from my own experience that my birthmom suffered greatly as a child and had serious mental health issues as an adult and still does she would have never for one reason or another thought that she could ever have contact or find her relinquished children so where you see that they may not care or wish to know you until you actually get solid information from the actual source once you are reunited your speculations can and will get the best of you. Make the call to the Reunion Registry program it is worth investing the time and most certainly worth the wait.

[leezate]

Hello Dawn, I was on the chat line tonight Aug 14, 05 And I would like to appoligize for those who can't seem to understand ever one is different in their feelings reguarding a search for a b-adult child. I wish you the very best Always.

[Montraviatommyg]

Originally Posted by leezate

Hello Dawn, I was on the chat line tonight Aug 14, 05 And I would like to appoligize for those who can't seem to understand ever one is different in their feelings reguarding a search for a b-adult child. I wish you the very best Always.

Well said, just going on the threads I've read each experience is different as we are all individuals.

Pip