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Originally Posted By Brenda

One of my co-workers is named Lynn. She got pregnent at age 16 and married the guy. She went on to have two more children with him. Her 16 year old daughter just told her that she was pregnant. Her daughter has had a volatile relationship with the father of her baby. He left her for a couple of months, before she knew she was pregnant and she responded by taking an overdose of her sister's pain pills. Her mother took her to work with her for a week because she was afraid she would hurt herself again. She also started her in counseling after waiting the one month period until her health benefits kicked in at work. I had a long talk with Lynn. She was saying that she ruined her life by getting married when she was 16 instead of giving up her baby for adoption. She was trying to convince her daughter that she was not ready to be a parent, and she would end up like her mother, a single mother supporting three children. Her two daughters were teenagers and both were staying out late one stole her car and she couldn't make it to work for two days. She couldn't afford to miss work. She was breaking out in a rash from worring. She reported her own daughter for stealing her car and had her arrested so she she could be locked up for a while so she could work with her other daughter who was suicidal over her relationship with her birthfather. Also the police would not help her recover her car unless she pressed charges. She was very unhappy. She said her daughters were repeating her mistakes and there was nothing she could do about it. Her whole family was out of control. She wished that she had waited to get pregnant, or put the baby up for adoption. She would have never married her ex, she would have had time to go to school so she could have a good job and she would not have to save her money just to scrape by, she could have waited and married for love and not because she needed someone to support her and the baby. And she wouldn't be a grandmother at age 33.

So you see regrets run both ways.