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Originally Posted By Amanda

OK people say your not killing the baby inside when you have and abortion but you are sorry to tell you this. people say it is not living but what is it when it is in side of you alive it is alive trust me when it comes out it is alive. as soon as the sperm hits the egg you have a living thing inside you. no matter no arms,no legs,no eyes or nose it will have it wont it give it time it will grow and thats how it's alive.

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Originally Posted By Lisa

Amenda I agree with you.I was scared and didn't know what to do but I knew theres one thing that I wouldn't do and that was have an abortion.

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Originally Posted By Amanda

at least some one does I don't even think i will but up
for adoption never will I because your still ruining it life well thats how i feel

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Dear Amanda,I'm going to share a story of mine that might make you look at it a little diffrent.When I Adopted my little boy the birth mom was young.Her mom and Dad had passed away and the father of the baby didn't wont anything to do with the baby.Of course she was scared didn't have a job or any kind of income.The people she was liveing with made her move out after the baby was born and he was 5 months old at the time they couldn't afford to take care of there family and hers too.At this time she was seeing another guy and his job consist of traveling from place to place.So she traveled with him staying in hotels with the baby and her boyfriend.She came down to visit family that lived were I do and her boyfriend drops her off and leaves her and the baby.I knew the family and got a call that she needed some help with this baby.Ok I offered for her and the baby to come and stay for a while and they did.I didn't have alot of money neither but what I was able to do I did.That baby had hardley anything.No baby powder very few diapers and you can say really nothing to wear.It was tough on us her staying and us haveing to take care of our family and hers too.But we managed.Of course I went and got clothes ,diapers wipes etc, That the baby needed.We talked and she wonted to get her GED and get a job and be able to take care of her child.That was great but she said that she couldn't do all of this and try to take care of a baby.I offered to take care of the baby while she did these things.All was agred on.She has her boyfriend to come and pick her up and she was going to stay with his parents while he was on the road and do these things.She wonted to do this in her home town so she could get a job there.Well a couple of months went by and she didn't do none of what she planed to do.Instead she traveled with her boyfriend.She comes back and takes the baby and goes back to her family and stays there for 3 weeks and wonts to go back with her boyfriend again.So we talk and she wonts me to adopt her child because she said he was so happy he had the things he needed and she saw the love that we had for each other.She told me when she had him that she more or less had to force feed him because he didn't wont to eat.When she came back over here he laughed and played and he ate good for me.She just couldn't beleve it.So I did what she asked me I adopted her son and have loved him from day one he is a part of my life and as if I gave birth to him myself I dont love him no less than my bilogical children.She was young and she had to get her life in order before she could take care of someone else(son).What I'm saying is that all of the back and forth did effect the baby and he will have to deal with the problems it has caused.He had a hearing loss that caused him to be behinde on his speech when she traveled with him he stayed in a car seat alot which caused delay in motor skills he was week in his neck and back It caused him to be behinde in a lot of things.She loved her son but she just couldn't take care of him and supply him with the things he needed and she didn't wont him to be slung all over the place.So she let someone who she knew in her heart loved that child and would give him a good home.We write and call each other and she receives pictures so she will always know that her son is doing well.I was young andif It wasn't for my parents I would probley be in the same boat as she was.I know theres a few things that I would have done diffrent than she did but I'm not her.What I'm trying to say is that if you have people to help you out acept there help and keep your baby.If you are in a situation were you cant take care of your baby then adoption is good .There are good people out there that would love and treat your child as there on and would do love your baby.You hear good stories and you hear bad.There are stories were you hear that the adopted parents broke promises and wont let the bmom have pictures or any type of contact.Thats wrong.If I had to give my child up I would have to receive pictures at least.You know what you can do and what you cant do as far as keeping you baby and dont let anyone talk you into something you dont wont to do.It's your life they dont have to live it.I think It would be wonderful if every one could keep there children.My heart goes out to those who cant have children but god had a plain for them and that was for them to adopt and give there love to that child.And most all dont take that adopted child for granted.They know this was a gift from god.I wish you the best of luck and I hope things work out for you and your Baby.God Bless.Lisa If you would like to talk please feel free to write me at lsmithey@datalane.net

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Originally Posted By birthmom Jamie

I agree .God made all of us .That tiny life is a human being that God has created.By the time abortions usually take place they have their own little blood streams flowing.I cry for the unborn children.