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Originally Posted By lupe

I have placed my daughter now I don't know what to do with myself. I don't remember how to be not pregnant.

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Originally Posted By Lisa

What were your goals and thoughts for the future before you became pregnant?
I'm a birthmom for over 9 years. I delivered right before my high school graduation. I guess I had it differently than you because I was planning for my future (college) throughout my pregnancy.
I missed being pregnant too, mostly because I didn't appreciate it until the very end. I had everyone around me telling me to "just on with" my life and to "jump right back in." So I did what they said and returned to school a week after I delivered. If I had it to do again I would have taken a little longer. And I would have tried harder to find a support group so I could speak with other women who had been through similar things.
My advice is to try to find someone to talk--a support group or counselor. If you have good supportive friends, talk to them.
Email me at d411lab@yahoo.com if you want to talk.

I wish you the best. It's a really hard thing to go from pregnancy to nothing. I remember the extreme emptiness I felt physically. It eventually got better, but I think it would have been better had I talked to someone about it.

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Originally Posted By missing

Lisa, it sounds as if your life has gone fine, I'd like to know if you have contact at all and how you feel years later. I also gave children ,twins up. It has been hell, I have done the support groups, it seems as if everyone has a fairly open relationship. In my case it was to be an open adoption, they went home while I was in the hospital, told me they forgot to send pictures because they were writing thank you notes, Then the bills were horrific, I got stuck with them. no one told me I had until the day the "adoption" was final to change my mind. I had within weeks, they were all told, they just kept the babies. I told the facilitator and lawyers numerous times there were problems, they ignored me, threatened to have my other children removed, told me my children were in a stable home. They had Social Services here, police officers, the case were immediately dismissd but it has been hell. Then they contacted the father and asked him to deny paternity, they were inclined to believe he was not the father. Now the facilitator has even informed a deputy attorney general this was a legal and ethical adoption??? Does anyone have any ideas?? My counselor hassaid the whole thing should be ran through a paper shreader the lawyers and facilitator say all is well, no lawyers, no rights, no information at all, and breaking their contract is perfectly legal???

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Originally Posted By To Missing

How long ago was this?