[bromanchik]

Placing a child for adoption needs to be a decision based on both the heart and the mind. To do this you need to be fully informed of your options. You also need to know about how adoption effects children. Might I suggest a great book? The Family of Adoption by Joyce Maguire Pavao. There is also a set of pocket guides that I have written about being a birthparent in an open adoption. (I think they are all avaliable on this site)
Please know that this will be an open adoption.. First and formost you will be this baby's birthmother if you decide to place and that is a role unlike any other.

No one really tells anybody this, but no matter what you decide your child will want to know that you love him. He will have questions that only you can answer. You are important to him. Adoption does not replace people. No one can be replaced.

It is important that your aunt and uncle also realize what is involved in an open adoption.

If you have any questions please feel free to e-mail me privately.

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Brenda Romanchik, Director
Insight: Open Adoption Resources and Support
721 Hawthorne
Royal Oak, MI 48067
248-543-0997
toll-free expectant parent/birthparent line 877-879-0669
http://www.openadoptioninsight.org
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[tiabear82]

yes, I do agree with you. I think you know what you are talking about.

Although, this won't be an open adoption as far as the baby is concerned. He will know that he is adopted, but he won't know who his birth mother is, untill he is old enough to understand.
And so i will not be around him as his mother...I will be around him as his cousin, just like I was with thier older child.
Yes I will see him and know that he is ok and taken care of.
But the whole adoption thing isn't really open.

Kinda hard to describe how it's going to work out, but once the initial settling down takes place and everyone begins to know thier roles it will be better I think.

Tia