[Isabo]

Originally Posted by smurray

Hello, I was 17 and did not know what to do, I placed my baby up for adoption at that time I knew it was the best thing for her. Now I believe she is trying to find me, she is 28 yrs old now. Anyways, you will make the right decision, you sound very mature, if you need to talk I am here.
Take care,
Sue

Sue,

This thread was originally started in September of 2003. The original poster had her baby and relinquished it to a couple who promised open adoption. Unfortunately, and sadly very commonly, the adoptive couple closed the adoption within the first year. If you read the original poster's posts, you will see her asking for advice as she attempted to build a good relationship with the adoptive couple. However, despite her attempts to not step on toes, etc., they closed the adoption with no explanation. They just stopped responding (and one of them worked with and were introduced to her by her parents!!). I hope those people come to their senses and show some compassion and follow through on their promises.

[Scarlet Moon 13]

Originally Posted by Isabo

Sue,

This thread was originally started in September of 2003. The original poster had her baby and relinquished it to a couple who promised open adoption. Unfortunately, and sadly very commonly, the adoptive couple closed the adoption within the first year. If you read the original poster's posts, you will see her asking for advice as she attempted to build a good relationship with the adoptive couple. However, despite her attempts to not step on toes, etc., they closed the adoption with no explanation. They just stopped responding (and one of them worked with and were introduced to her by her parents!!). I hope those people come to their senses and show some compassion and follow through on their promises.

If wishes were money I'd be a millionaire ..

To close the adoption in the first year, liars, cheats, do anything, say anything just to steal someones baby.. I know open adoption can be hard for a first time parent..

But, the most values part of us is "our given word". If a person can't keep their word, then they should walk away. The adoptee will find out one day, that his or her parents, in esscence "stole the adoptee with lies"

harsh thoughts, yes, but that is basically how I feel.. in voluntary adoptions..

State TPR is usually based on some real reason, abuse, drugs, crimminal behavor. Those reason can be hard to deal with. In those cases I wouldn't keep an adoption open either. But, I would always keep contact information for later. After all some people do change.