[fairydust159]

I'm currently 17 weeks pregnant with our "first" and placed my little boy in April of 07. Is anyone else out there pregnant after placement?

Honestly this feels a bit weird! Its like I have all the symptoms of a second pregnancy, but this all feels so new! I've even had to remind myself a few times that this is my second pregnancy.

So, is anyone else out there pregnant after placement? What you experiencing? How is it for you?

[taramayrn]

Hey Fairy - I am also pregnant with our second baby, but our first parented one. Our placed son was born February of 2000. This time around is weird, but soo good. So far I haven't started to feel all the emotions that I worry about, but I know that will come closer to the time the baby is born, and when the baby is born.
We are due in December.

[quantum]

I waited 17 years before I got pregnant again!
But it was a bit weird. Everyone talking about my 'first' pregnancy and so on.
I loved being pregnant though.

[fairydust159]

Yeah I feel almost guilty calling it my first pregnancy to the majority of the world. Obviously its not a conversation i'm going to get into with everyone. My mom keeps forgetting this is my second preg... and a few times she's been telling me something about birth and I'm like "uhh, yeah, I know" and she just stops and is like "oh, yeah, I forgot". She was supportive all through the first pregnancy and adoption, but we both admit it doesnt feel like i've had a child! Is it terrible that I even forget this isn't my first pregnancy? I don't feel like a mom, and she's said she doesn't feel like a grandma yet.

Its also kinda weird to be showing this pregnancy off. I announced it in church at the end of the first trimester and now every week I have people asking how i'm feeling, how the baby is doing, etc. I've never had that! My mom is just going off her rocker waiting until we find out if its a boy/girl before buying "too much" (yeah, she already mailed off 3 boxes of unisex baby stuff), and even my MIL sends "baby kisses" whenver she calls. I'm even still hesitant to talk to my DH about baby stuff (even though he goes to all my appts with me). I don't know why, i just seem to revert back to the "hidden" first pregnancy.

Neways, i'm rambling. Thats so awesome you guys are pregnant though! Congrats!! I'm due at the end of October (4 days from my birthday). I hope you have happy healthy pregnancies!

[josh1788smom]

I had my second child 8 1/2 years after my first son was born. It was totally weird being able to "show off" being pregnant and being able to be proud you are pregnant. I was actually pregnant the year before my second son was born, but had a daughter prematurely (21 weeks), and she didn't survive. That TOTALLY BIT!

When I was pregnant with my son, (first parented child), I was a little hesitant and nervous about everything because of the premature birth. I hated -WITH A BIG HATED - going to get my ultrasounds done because you had to list all your pregnancies, so they would always ask if my first born was happy to be a big brother. That stunk too. I have 3 parented kids, have had a miscarriage, had one premature birth, and the one that was placed. So I totally hated ultrasounds with all of them. Everytime, they inquired about my other kids liking having a new baby. My youngest is 17 years younger than my first, and the tech asked if he was weirded out that his mom was pregnant when he was so old. I was done by then - so I just told her - he doesn't even know and left it at that.



Congratulations and best wishes to you!!!!!

[fairydust159]

Oh yes when they were asking about previous pregnancies that was bit uncomfortable! Thankfully this pregnancy is close enough to my last that they're not asking about the "big brother".

[quantum]

I hated going to a new OB/GYN all the time! Then my first daughter I had a c-section which doesn't really 'count' as a first birth when having labor with the second. So that got messy since I decided after I had her that I wouldn't talk about my son. Man were they surprised at how fast dd2 came out!

[SchmennaLeigh]

Originally Posted by fairydust159

Oh yes when they were asking about previous pregnancies that was bit uncomfortable! Thankfully this pregnancy is close enough to my last that they're not asking about the "big brother".

They will. My placed daughter and first parented child were (are) 23 months apart. While she was asked about less during that pregnancy, many questions were asked at the hospital for delivery. Furthermore, she was brought up even more when I was pregnant with my second son about how she was just the right age to be a "big help" and so on.

[browneyes0707]

I'm not pregnant yet, but my husband and I have recently decided to "test the waters" so to speak and stop using birth control from here on out. (That in itself is scary to type out!) We aren't actively trying, but I think that might change soon. My first pregnancy was a secret from everyone including my family (my husband knows though) and while I'm looking forward to getting pregnant and starting a family, I'm definitely nervous and scared about how my placement will affect it, especially the questions by medical professionals about my previous birth, which was sixteen years ago.

I'm so glad this thread was started and I look forward to reading it! Congrats everyone!

[fairydust159]

Yeah browneyes, although my family knew about my first pregnancy/adoption, my DH's family doesn't know. So although I'm having a lot of "first's" i've never had before, I feel so much more prepared than other first time moms! I would have to say the scaries thing so far is almost saying "yeah last time..." and letting it slip. While she's a great MIL i'm reallly not comfortable getting into that with her.

Good luck in TTC! My DH and I tried for about 6 months (actively) before we were sucessful. Enjoy the trying! *wink*

[taramayrn]

We tried for one whole month. hehe Can you say fertile?

[browneyes0707]

Well, I learned that I'm not a one trick pony apparently Which is OK. I have my sisters wedding upcoming, and although my immediate family I would tell, it would be hard to tell my blabby extended family why I would not be partaking in the Irish traditions, if you know what I mean! I'm not one to turn down a good luck drink or two!

However, it is making me feel that much more comfortable about the possibility of getting pregnant sometime in the near future.

[kakuehl]

Tara, (and everyone else) it's been a while (my youngest is 30 in July), but I got pregnant the month after I went off birth control each time with the two I raised. Getting pregnant has obviously NOT ever been a difficulty for me. (Unfortunately, my DH wanted to stop with 2 since we had one of each kind, or I'd probably have at least a dozen.) My mother warned me when I placed D that I might never be able to get pregnant again.

I must have driven DH crazy the first years of our marriage because I so badly wanted another child. My arms were so empty. I taught the whole time I was pregnant (It's fun teaching 6th grades circle dances at 8mo pregnant.) That pregnancy was probably the most difficult of the three, physically and maybe emotionally too.

I have had to answer the question of how many pregnancies/children evey year at my GYN appointment. Only it would be phrased, you have 3 children? and I would respond something like, I've had three live births and I'm raising two children. (Sigh... always awkward.) I did tell my dr when I began reunion with D.

I enjoyed my pregnancies and babies... they never took D's place but they sure kept me busy!

My advice to all of you is to enjoy each day to its fullest. (Regrets are probably inevitable, but try to live in the present!)