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Originally Posted by SchmennaLeigh

Grinch,
Regarding your feelings on adoption, a counselor of mine recently challenged me to think about it this way: The pain a birthparent feels is not for YOUR sake. No birthparent wakes up one day and thinks, "I'm going to go through pain in order to make some family happy."

Jenna,

This is a valid point, one that I actually read in a book about adoption many years ago (required reading for all counselor's of bmom's? I do wounder) but one I forgot. Perfect example of "if you don't use it you lose it". Anyway, I will keep this in mind in case adoption does become our only hope. Thank you very much for the feedback. It is very helpful to me.

Montravia,
I wish you the best in TTC, anything in particular that changed your mind about having another child? I know I felt the same way for a period of time after my son was born.

[Montraviatommyg]

grinch,

What changed my mind about having another child was spending countless hours talking with my husband about exactly how I felt particularly feeling insecure about getting pregnant then being left to 'hold the baby'. Even after these years I still remember like it was yesterday the pressure I was put under by my parents to have my bson adopted. My husband has been a great support as he has sat through the anger and tears I have worked through so this went a long way to helping me change my mind.

Montravia