[cathy102]

Jenna... You are soooooo welcome... I think you will have little one soooo soon... Just a great feeling I have...

Hugs to you,

Cathy

[Ragnarok]

Good grief. Are you supposed to do all that before you even get started? We just figured she would stop taking bc, and we would get busy. I was all for the get busy part, but now it is just sounding like hard work...

[cathy102]

The Doctor's are the best bet...

Hugs,

Cathy

[Casey677]

Jenna,

So happy you found a place!!!! (((((((Hugs))))))


Casey

[SchmennaLeigh]

Thanks Casey. *hugs*

Brad, the difference between TTC and suddenly finding yourself pregnant is that you can do things to ensure, on your part, as best you can that your child is having a healthy start. That's why my Doc threw me on my prenatals now as opposed to a month and a half after we get pregnant. (Since it usually takes around a month to get into see my doc without a prescheduled appointment. Busy guy, GREAT Doc.)

And of course, there's nothing wrong with the getting busy method.

Cathy, I only hope that you are right. That this doesn't take too long. I'm really worried about me stressing out (me? stress?! NEVER!) and causing the process to last longer than it should. Of course, maybe if I do some Jedi mind trick and think, "Gee, I hope I don't get pregnant!" ... I will! *snicker*

Here's news: We'll be at my most fertile on... Valentine's Day! Whoa!

[cathy102]

Jenna...That would be wild to conceive on Valentine's Day... It was so stressful when I tried to get pregnant. As soon as we got married, we tried for a baby. People just told me to try and relax after trying for years..Yeah, right, is what I would tell them. Even after having Surgery, and 2 IVF's, my Specialist said that there is nothing wrong with us... (I did get pregnant once and had a miscarriage at 4 months) The funny thing is now I DON'T want any more kids and I have this weird feeling that we will conceive a child.. I have dreams all the time.. I am just happy with the 2 kids I have...Hub and I are going on a Cruise for 7 days this weekend and could you imagine me getting pregnant then???

Have a great day...

Cathy

[Ragnarok]

Cool Jenna. Good luck.

We also thought that TTC would be too stressful, so we decided to just stop trying not to conceive. I think if we actually were trying, my wife probably would have done all that important stuff, but technically we are not actually trying. Which does not explain why I am so stressed about it.

Actually I have really cold feet.

[SchmennaLeigh]

Brad,

Do you feel comfortable discussing your cold feet? If not, ignore me.

I have a random case of my own. We know this is what we want. We are ready financially. My kidney is working well right now and my last tests came back as normal as opposed to the last round. A lot of my cold feet-ish-ness (nice word!) surrounds my ability to perform as a "good Mom" and of course, my health issues. (Just the thought of the last half of my previous pregnancy are enough to make me cry.)

Of course, and those "other" emotions related to the placement. But that's a whole other post.

[Ragnarok]

Heh. Where do I start?

I am absolutely petrified of not being a good father (numerous reasons for that). I am afraid of a baby messing up the relationship I have with my wife. I have a niggling fear of her changing her mind halfway through the pregnancy again and losing another son. And I do not want to become a boring old fart.

[79nic]

Major cold feet here, when we were TTC (or not trying not to conceive, as Brad says).

Matt and I got married on Nov. 1, 2002. I think it was only a couple weeks later that I was saying, "Let's have a baby."

He kind of hemmed and hawed...

Then at the end of December, we were out at a club with Matt's cousin and the cousin's girlfriend. They were not married yet (though it was moving that way), and had not even been together that long. She was just coming out of a difficult divorce, in fact. Still, they knew they would be together forever. They were "the ones" to each other. (And yup, they are married now and very happy.)

Anyway, Matt's cousin, J, told us that night that he and L were trying to have a baby.

Well, after we got home Matt looked at me and said, (paraphrasing), Heck, if they're trying already, maybe it's not that big a deal. Maybe we can be parents...

So, from January through March, we stopped using condoms.... every month... right until the time we both suspected I was ovulating. (I didn't track it or anything, we both just knew.) Then, we'd both wimp out.

Finally, in April we decided to really "go for it," and stuck with it even during ovulation time.

BAM. We were pregnant.

Still, when I took the test and it turned positive, I almost cried. I was sooooooooo scared. But it was done, and couldn't be undone at that point. (Well, not for me, anyway, I don't have it in me to abort a pregnancy...)

Sorry, long story. Just wanted you to know that we had major cold feet, too. It was very, very scary watching that little stick turn up two pink lines. Maybe in part because the last time it had done that, was for Marie....

Nicole

[SchmennaLeigh]

Nic,

Thank you so much for sharing those stories of your time TTC. Glad to know that I'm (we're) not the only one(s) who freaked out a bit. We actually tested early in January before all of my cancer testing because, in order to be x-rayed, I couldn't be pregnant. I remember waiting for the test to turn and almost hyperventilating. Obviously, we weren't pregnant, but still, the memories came flooding back.

Brad,

You will never, ever be a boring old fart. Never! You will be a great father, I have no doubt in that. As for your wife changing her mind, have you thought about discussing that fear with her? Of course, in a nonconfrontational manner... simply stating that in order for you to get that little fear out of your head, you need for her to reassure you? Is that possible?

[Ragnarok]

Thanks Nic. It is nice to know I am not alone.

Jenna, thanks for the vote of confidence. I wish I had as much faith in me as you do. I already did talk to my wife about the placement fear, that is why it is just a niggling doubt and not a flashing red neon sign with screaming sirens.

[SchmennaLeigh]

*chuckles* Okay, little bits of fear are better than red neon signs accompanied by sirens. I'll give you that.

[cathy102]

Jenna and Brad....Wishing your families the best in trying to get pregnant...

Cathy

[Ragnarok]

I think I am sabotaging my own mission.