[lynn m]

I placed twin boys for adoption on 06-06-91 in Florence , SC. I was at a maternity home / adoption agency called Love Life Ministries. I really don't know what to do first because the adoption agency is now closed and I don't know how to get any more information except through them. If anyone knows anything about that adoption agency or how to get in touch with someone who would know. The only non-identifying info I have is my sons first names- Robert and Thomas. I just want to know that my sons are well and happy.

[Carol Bird]

We are a support Forum and don't help in the search process other than advising you where to turn.

We have a wonderful -- successful -- Reunion Registry at http://www.AdoptionRegistry.com
Check it out and look to see if anyone is searching for you. If you don't find a match, post your information (gender, date and year of birth, city/state, hospital if you have it. (it is FREE)
Also send a stamped, self addressed envelope with a note asking for a registration form to the International Soundex Reunion Registry, P.O. Box 2312, Carson City, NV 89702-2312

You can also check with our Search Guru at our SEARCH FORUM at http://www.adoptionforums.com
She can give you some advice.

AND ... PLEASE PREPARE YOURSELF by reading articles in our Library at http://www.adoptionlibrary.com
and reading some of the excellent books on reunion available today.

Good Luck and Hugs,\
Carol Bird

[daina jeffcoat]

Lynn, I also gave a child up through Love Life Ministries on May 25,1988. Try to reach Anice or John Craddock through Liberty University.They were funded by Jerry Falwell Ministries. Someone has our adoption records and we need to find out who. I am looking for my daughter too. The Craddock's sons name was Markand he handled alot of the legal stuff. That's all I remember.
Good luck and God Bless. Daina

in the state i live in, if an agency closes, the records are turned over to the state. I don't know the name of the department in charge of adoption records, but you can look in the blue (government) pages of the phone book for the city you live in. Just call any department and explain the situation; they'll be able to refer you to the appropriate number. Post again and let me know what happens. -ivy

[tanyakburns]

Lynn, Anice died. I'm not sure about John. Mark still lives in Florence and has a landscaping business. I have his telephone number, but he won't answer the phone when I call. Before you think I must have gone stalker on him, I only called him once. He told me he would call me back, but he never did and now won't answer my calls. I am beyond frustrated. Not because I feel an immediate need to run find my son who just turned 18. I don't know that he would be ready for that yet. I am just frustrated because I know of so many women who are sitting around wondering what next about this. I do hope that you find something that will be helpful. Keep us posted!
Tanya

[CarFun]

Please contact me and I can put you in touch with others doing this search. I have a name and address that John is using for correspondence. I too am a birthmom looking my for child. caryn_dances@yahoo.com

[carixlynn]

they are not really your son's anymore.
im adopted, and if my Bmom every told me that I was her daughter, i'd walk right out of that room and never come back. Bmom and Bdads think that just because their DNA is in me, I am still theirs. They were never yours, and I'm never going to my my bmoms either. I am not trying to upset you, or make you sad. Im just trying to let you know the truth, if you come to them in that approach, then im sorry they will probably resent you. Im sure their fine and well, but you need to contact them to help you have a peace at mind. At least your trying to search for them, I have no clue if my birth parents are searching for me.. at least your concerned enough about them. I have one question for you, do you regret giving them up for adoption? Or do you still think that the dicision you made was the best. I always wanted an opinion from a Bparent..

[txrnr]

Carixlynn, please remember those are your feelings, and you can't speak for the rest of the adoptees out there. I am an adoptee, and I certainly don't feel that way.

I know you're trying to help, and that's great. All sides of the triad should think of all outcomes when it comes to reunion. You're just representing one adoptees opinion, just like I can only represent mine.

[Xdad]

Originally Posted by carixlynn

they are not really your son's anymore.

What shall she call them then?


In many cases the decision to relinquish a child is based on fairly temporary situations, an most of these cases are when the birthparent isn't in any position to raise a child. In these cases, yes, it was the best choice to make for the child.

Carixlynn, do you feel like you were abandoned by your birthparents, and hold that against them? Do you feel that your aparents would feel slighted if you chose to love your birthparents?

what shall she call them now?

son

* Pronunciation: \ˈsən\
* Function: noun
* Etymology: Middle English sone, from Old English sunu; akin to Old High German sun son, Greek hyios
* Date: before 12th century

1.
a : a human male offspring especially of human beings
b : a male adopted child
c : a human male descendant

2. capitalized : the second person of the Trinity

3. : a person closely associated with or deriving from a formative agent (as a nation, school, or race)

— son·hood \-ˌhu̇d\ noun

It really doesn't get easier that that, does it?

Perhaps then Adads shouldn't get Father day cards?

Are we splitting hairs over the English dictionary, or is it ego that is at stake?

So.... whats in a name?

(and many of you know, I am presenting this for discussion, a devils advocate)

[geogdeb]

I am glad my son doesn't feel the same way carixlynn does. I know I am not the mother who raised him. I know he will always feel differently about her than he does about me. But I gave him life and I love him too. And I didn't want to relinquish him. Carixlynn, you don't know the circumstances of every adoption, nor do you know how every adoptee feels. I hope you will have some compassion for your bparents if you ever have contact with them.