[Jackieself]

My birthson and I have been corresponding for the last year via email. We've spoken once, albeit for 3 hours on the phone, and plan to meet this weekend. We live on opposite sides of the country and I am planning to travel to see him. I wrote to him today asking him to call me and haven't heard back. His cell phone is out of order. Question is: Should I still go in two days if he doesn't find a way to call me? I feel like if he doesn't contact me that he's rejecting me, but maybe he's just busy. He's only 24. Is it worth the risk for me to show up without pushing him or should I tell him I can't go unless he gives me a phone number or address to reach him once I get there. All I have is an email... I don't want to be too pushy, but it also seems insane to travel so far and just have to wait for him to contact me once I get there.

[txrnr]

That is scary. I would want to have those things too. Given his age, is it possible his cell phone was also his main way of checking email? I know that's the case for many of my high school kids. Maybe it hasn't dawned on him to go sit at an actual computer and check his email.

Tough call. Good luck, and I hope your reunion is wonderful.

[JustPeachy]

Would you think it too pushy if you were meeting anyone else long distance to ask for a contact number for when you arrive? I would want to exchange cellphone numbers and have an actual plan for when we were going to meet and where. You need to confirm you are actually meeting and I wouldn't want to make the trip unless I knew for sure what the agenda was.

I suppose you could still go and plan to do other things if you do not hear from him. But that would be extremely frustrating.

I hope you are able to touch base with him and figure this out. If he has gotten cold feet, he should at least call or email and let you know he's not ready.