[loveajax]

DH (41 yo) has located his birth mom....

Right now she lives very close to us....She and her husband live in the summer/fall months (apparently) with their son and his wife. Then they move to FL for the winter.

DH plans to write his birth mom a letter. Is it "OK" to send it to her at the local address (even though her other son is there...I have no idea whether he (or even her DH) know about DH (she also placed DH's older sister)). Do you think he should wait a couple of months until she is in FL? (I know this is not my call, but I am kind of hoping for him to do this sooner rather than later...it's been "lingering" out there for a while).

Also, DH keeps asking me, "She would want at least to know I am doing well, right?" (I feel like he is a little insecure about this!). I told him that I strongly suspect that, at a minimum, she will want to know he is happy and healthy. I know there are some birth moms who never respond (for their own personal reasons), but I am hoping that she will welcome this letter.

TIA!!!

[aspenhall]

You could send it marked private, and sealed inside a second envelope marked with her name on it and something like "for XYZ'S eyes only"

[Liz79]

I live only a town away from my birthfather. I wasn't sure if his family knew about me, so I left the letter at the store he went to, and asked the lady if she knew him, and she said yes, so I left it with her along with my #. She gave it to him the next time he went in the store, alone, and he contacted me the next day. We live in the country though so it was kinda easy.