[jtlund]

I gave up my daughter when I was 17 on 12/8/81 in Montgomery, Alabama. My parents were stationed there in the Air Force so we didn't live there long. She was born at St. Margaret's Hospital and the doctor was Dr. Jehle. I am now 43, I'm happily married for 9 years, have a loving husband and a son who will be 5 in March. I have waited patiently for my birthdaughter to find me. There's not one person involved in my life who doesn't know she exists, somewhere.

I've registered everywhere imagineable (I think) because I wanted her to know I was VERY open to her finding me. Lately, I've had this pit in my stomach that somethign happened to her. My son was born with a congenital heart defect (single ventricle) and my nephew was born with a heart defect as well. I'm worried something may have happened to my birthdaughter and I'll never know. Also, I want to find her now so I can give her her medical history I didn't know about when I gave birth to her. Any ideas? I know Alabama has open records but what if her parents didn't tell her she was adopted.

[keds]

Hi, sorry, I can't offer much advice but to say I'm praying for you. Do you know if it was a private adoption through a lawyer or a state agency? If you've registered it is odd that you haven't had any response. With your concerns, and I'm not sure how to say this, can you check the newspapers for notices of births/deaths? (((hugs)))

[RavenSong]

Originally Posted by jtlund

My son was born with a congenital heart defect (single ventricle) and my nephew was born with a heart defect as well. I'm worried something may have happened to my birthdaughter and I'll never know. Also, I want to find her now so I can give her her medical history I didn't know about when I gave birth to her. Any ideas?

Actually, your best bet may be contacting the agency you went through in 1981, and telling them you have updated medical history that might be vital for your daughter. Since both your son and your nephew were born with congenital heart defects, your daughter's future children should be screened at birth. I think that the adoption agency would have no problem with passing on the updated medical information to your daughter or her a-parents. The only problem I could foresee is if the agency doesn't have a current address on file for them.

If your daughter DOES receive an updated medical history, she'll at least know that you are thinking of her. That may pique her curiosity about you and lead her to the reunion registries.

[quantum]

Just a thought, I never thought I would search for my bson. I thought I would make myself available and hope for him to find me.
Well, after reading a lot here, I took the jump and looked for him anyway. He was VERY open to having contact, had just not gotten around to looking for me.

Just a thought!

All the best for you.

[lahdh4]

If you went through an agency I would get in touch with them and start from there. Letting them know that you have updated medical information to be passed on to her.

[jtlund]

It was through Catholic Social Services. I did find an e-mail address for them - maybe I'll send them a quick e-mail with my updated history.

I wonder if they'd just tell me if she's okay? That would at least put my fears to rest.

[Jackiejdajda]

Ask for non identifying information..

Call them.. demand your information..

Send letter registered when you find their address etc..

Jackie