[quantum]

Well, in less than 3 weeks I begin my journey back to the states.
Sometime during that month long trip, I'll meet my bson!
I'm excited, terrified, I think I'm going to go without sleep for a while again.

Any words of advice? Should I get this reunion guide I've read bits about first?
Should I???

I don't know, I just wanted to share this with you all!

[taramayrn]

No words of advice, just happy thoughts for your first meeting.

[bmum79]

It's always helpful to have some awareness behind you so, yes, reading up on reunions would be a good thing. If you're not able to, all I can say is enjoy the experience, savour that moment,try not to expect too much as this'll be a stranger who you're meeting and let your bson set the pace!
Beware that kick at the end of the day when you say goodbye. I was not prepared for it.
Best of luck to both of you.

[quantum]

Ugh, the kick! Thanks for the warning.
With how my moods have been since making contact, I can see where that will happen! Especially since I live so far away, I don't know when I'll see him again.

[kune]

Quantum
Get the book - read it from cover to cover - it makes sense and prepares you for what could be and possible actions that could occur. Of course everyone thinks they can handle their own heart (I did - I was sure I was strong enough) but within an hour of my f2f I was an emotional rag doll. Tears are good - cleansing. Red eyes and blotchy skin was not the best look though. Afterwards I read the book and thought ^%da*n%# why didn't I read this first.

I wanted to be relaxed - instead I was wound up like a top because basically I had no life experience to measure this by. If I had read the book I would have least had an example to work from if needed.

There were some things said that should have been answered with a "I'd rather talk about that later". I wasn't prepared is the short answer. I could have done it better if I was prepared and had done a little more study.

Only a suggestion ...but you did ask!!

Hey....Like you an ocean seperates my son and I. You can keep a reunion moving forward with letters, e-mails, phone calls and texts. I fly out every 6 months or so, and save my $$ to bring him here if I really need to see him. Sometimes I think we have it made. I don't annoy him too much, he has no worries about me interfering in his life, but I know he is a very willing participant in our reunion and is always keen to jump a jet for 3-4 hours and come visit his other family.

Ann

[SadMother]

Quantum, be yourself, don't expect too much and wear clothes that you feel comfortable ... know that last one sounds funny but you will appreciate feeling comfortable in your clothes when the time comes. That first meeting is hard so do stuff to keep your mind off it.

[longingtomeetyou]

thats exciting