[sweety]

Hi,
My name is Jennifer and i am looking for my birth mother i dont know a lot of details but i was born on July 11,1977. i am so confused about my life i don't know where i came from or who my parents are . i was in a closed adoption so i cannot open the case again . if anyone can help me i would appreciate it.
Jennifer

[maryjanek]

Hi Jennifer.

Most adoptions are closed, but people do manage to find each other, with luck and determination. It's been a while since you posted, so you may have found more info on your own since then. But if you haven't already, try the International Soundex Reunion Registry (ISRR). It's a nonprofit set up to help people who want to reunite. It only works if both people are searching, but I know an adoptee who paid a private detective to find her bmother and later found out her mother was on the free registry. So it's something to try -- http://www.isrr.net/

If you were adopted through an agency, contact them too. Many agencies now will do a search through an intermediary, which gives the person who's found the opportunity to say whether or not they want contact. That's how I found my bson six years ago. And it's how his brother in his adoptive family, also adopted, found his bmother a couple of years later.

Everyone's experience with search and reunion is different, but I don't think I've ever heard someone say they wish they hadn't done it. Even if all you get is some information about your biological and historical roots, I think it can help you understand yourself better. My bson is glad he knows about his bfather even though they never met, and my bson and I now have a relationship that means a lot to both of us.

I'd advise doing a bunch of reading about other people's experiences to help prepare yourself for the search and hopefully for a reunion. And try to put together a support network of people who will be there for you when you run into difficulties, because even the happiest reunions have some rough spots.

I wish you all the best.

Mary Jane

[birth_mother]

What state and county were u born in? Or where do u live now?

[083174lubbocktx]

Jennifer,

Also try www.txcare.org it may help you also.

Ashley

[debphillips]

dear jen, do you live in lubbock now or is that just were you were born and do you know if it was thru church org? I'm not you mom but do know their was a org off loop that handled adoptions and ran a unwed mothers home.dont know if that will help you any ,good luck I'm searching for my b-m aswell.
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