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Originally Posted By Kathy

My story is a short one... altho encompassing 44 years, since that is how old I am. I found out I was adopted when I was 26, by a jilted boyfriend who my brother had confided in. Interesting how the whole world knew except me. I was at work and on supper hour my ex took me into a room and said...
"You were adopted, your Mother was Irish, your Father was Spanish. Haven't you ever wondered why there are no baby pictures of you?"
Being 26 at the time I was very mature about it, confronted my mom and she finally admitted to me. Anyway... I got non ID info a few years later, and then in 95 I requested a search to contact my birthmom. She was found 6 months later by a social worker, and contacted, I think by phone... anyway, she refused. That ended my quest, closed the chapter in my life, UNTIL I stumbled onto some registry sites on the net!
I registered in June, on a Canadian site, and 4 days ago I got a call saying they had found a match!!
Now, I have the chore of contacting a woman that said 6 years ago she didn't want contact. So I went out and purchased a "Thinking of You" card, wrote a letter to put inside, identifying myself to her, but if read by another family member wouldn't give them a hint of who I actually was. I felt that a greeting card would be less noticed by others than a letter from a strange town.
What if she doesn't want contact... do I then have the right to contact my half siblings (never having had experience with half and step anything, I am finding it hard to figure out if they in fact ARE anything to me, and me to them???), even tho she wants no contact and the siblings probably know nothing about me...?

I haven't mailed her letter yet, hoping to connect with a local group if there is any... to learn what is the best approach... how to approach the siblings that don't know about you, and etc....

To all those that are in the midst of your search... just hang in there, even when things look soooo doomed... you just never know when a little angel is looking out for you to help guide you on your way!!