[hayleysgirl]

I am a birth mother who relinquished my daughter to adoption in 1978. I really did not want to give her up & had changed my mind when I was in labor. I went thru a very hard labor (32 hours) before they took her by c-section. I was a minor at the time, but they had me sign the papers right after surgery when I was still under sedation and my parents were not at the hospital. They were told when they came back that I had signed and that she was gone already. My parents were unable to see me still and thought I had changed my mind back. After such a long and tiring event they didn't realize that they should have been there with me. I was told by a search angel that in the 70's, when the adoptions started to be done by other places then the state agencies that doctors and attorneys basically sold the babies to their friends and family. I really believe that someone heard me say I had changed my mind and they let me go thru labor for so long that they had to keep me sedated for such a long time. Once I came too I figured she was already gone and I was not prepared for her so I didn't do anything about it. I have never forgotten her and I have searched for many years, especially since the internet made it easier more things available. I have not been able to have children since because of the c-section I had. There has been an emptiness in me all these years. Sometimes I get so depressed and cry for her, for me for missing raising my child, I think I would have been a good mother. Maybe not 16 and that young but I have missed motherhood and there is a lonliness in me that I will always have.
I think that there is a match for my daughter and I have sent out inquiries thru the web sites with no response. I am afraid she doesn't want to meet me. A search angel gave me a list of the females that were born that day and I matched her first name and middle name that was on the adoption.com web site with my list and found that name on list and searched google and came up with her myspace page. My mother can not believe how much she looks like me and my dads side of the family. I am 99.999 % sure she is my daughter. What do I do now? Do I give more time for her to respond to my messages sent thru the web sites? What if she didn't get them? How long do I wait? I am so anxious and nervous, what if she doesn't want to meet me?

[sstuart]

Did you send the message to her my space page?
The problem is many times people set up those pages and then never come back and check on them. I never go to my space any more. You should try to find her address and send a certified letter there. At least then you can know that she received your message. If she did get your messages, it just may take her a little while to take it all in and know what she wants to say to you.
Good luck, take it slow, breathe, and be as honest as you can with her and yourself. This is quite a ride.

[hayleysgirl]

Thank you for your advice. No I have not contacted her thru myspace. I just looked at her pics and profile. She lives in the same town I do. I am so positive it my daughter. Born the same time, weight, by csection, and she knew my doctor was not the one who delivered her he was on vacation. There are 2 addresses for her on the directories. How can I find the correct one?

[sstuart]

If she lives in the same time. I would go by and see if I could catch her out. Or you could send a letter to both addresses. I tend to hesitate sending a message thru email, since you never know where or who may open it.