[dpen6]

Lovejax,

Thats why this whole adoption, reunion, contact thing is called such a rollercoaster. Its so esy for all of us, no matter what side of the issue we are on to have such conflicting emotions. Of course you felt angry at her, thats what happens when you see someone you love being hurt for no ther reason but to "know"...but then look further and you realize that things really have to happen on their own time for it to work.

It sounds like she is dealing with some very real life tough issues Like cetally,. I wish you all peace and serentiy

[loveajax]

Thank you, Cetalley! Dh told his mom when he found his birth mom but he hasn't said anything to her yet about getting the email. I hope he does before Turkey Day!! His mom and dad are really cool (their daughter, my SIL, reunited with her birth mom) so I think it will be OK (though I imagine it is somewhat emotional!).

[RavenSong]

Originally Posted by loveajax

update!!!omg....dh got an email yesterday that said ''son.'' it was from his birth mom!!she said she decided to contact him because her health is failing. she had a stroke so she said typing was difficult. she said dd and I were beautiful and he is so handsome (he is!!!). she said that her family does not know of '' you and i.'' she said she knew he must have a lot of qs, so ''take a deep breath and ask away.'' (so sweet!) she said she admired ''his parents.''she wants to communicate by email for now...she said she had a lot more to say but ''my head is spinning!'' I swear it was such an amazing surreal thing...i am sooo happy for dh and hope someday he gets to meet her (she lives 15 minutes from us!).I wanted to thank you all for your support and insight (raven, a special shoutout to you if you read this!!)

LoveAjax, I am ecstatic!! I just had "one of those feelings" about your husband's bmom. I knew he was going to hear from her after she processed some of her emotions.

Please don't feel guilty for feeling angry at her. It's only natural that you'd feel angry and hurt. Whenever I see my loved ones' get hurt, my anger switch turns on.

Oh, I hope you all get to meet soon! I am so sorry to hear that DH's bmom's health is failing. But he may just be the tonic she needs right now. The chance for her to set things right, to let him know he's loved...that's an awesome blessing.

Has DH come up with some questions to ask her yet? I think it's so cool that she invited him to ask her whatever he wants to know. Please keep us all updated...I'm sitting on the edge of my chair, lol!

[quantum]

Thanks for the update! GREAT NEWS!
I hope things continue to go well.
How exciting.

:-)

[loveajax]

Thank you, guys. I kept thinking of you, Raven, last night and how "prescient" you were.

The sad thing is that with the stroke, I wonder if she is "embarassed" to speak on the phone/meet with DH because she may have a hard time communicating? And DH hates email....he so really just wants to meet for coffee. He probably has a million questions, but I don't think he wants to overwhelm her.

Anyway, I am trying not to get ahead of myself and just follow his lead. (I am his "editor" so I am sure I will read the email that goes out...he says he wants to try to email her back before Thanksgiving.). (I keep sobbing at random moments!).

[lovemy2boys]

What wonderful news...I am so happy for your DH.

Just another blessing to give thanks for on Thursday...

[zxczxcasdasd]

Wonderful news! Congratulations!

[loveajax]

thank you, quantum, love and heidi!!! I am sooooooo grateful to a.com and all the supportive people here!it's so funny how there really noone ''irl'' that gets it like you all.

[browneyes0707]

OMG OMG!!!!!

I am sooooo happy! What an awesome thing to be thankful for!!!!!!!!!!!


I don't think there are enough emoticons here!!!!

Just..... awesome!!!

[Mommy24]

I do believe that this is the best news I have heard all week!

It has been almost 1 yr since I made contact with my son and it brings back lots of emotions for me, I wish the best for your hubby and his birth mom.

Keep us posted ( I know you will)

Hugs to all of you

[paigeturner]

LA!!!!

I am so happy for you and your husband! It has bothered me a lot that he hadn't heard from her after all this time and in your posts I could feel your pain for him. This is really wonderful news!

Congratulations!

[loveajax]

thank you, btown (aka pinkie), mommy and paige! yoi guys are so great!my dh said the thing that moved him the most was when she wrote noone knows of ''you and i''...he said the ''and i'' made all the difference. I an so thankful...it feels like such a gift!

[lahdh4]

I don't think that there words!!! OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!! that is wonderful!!!!!!!!!!!! How is he doing now? breathing I hope.
What great news!!!!

[thanksgivingmom]

Love!!! I am so happy for him!!! (And everybody involved!!!!!) I am covered in chills and so excited!

[loveajax]

thank you, l and tmom!!! I think he's excited and a little shocked! the poor guy hates emails so I hope this can progress some time to a f2f. he is really such a sweetie and I am so happy for him!!!