[lahdh4]

I agree with you Kathy. It does sound as if she is threatened by you and this is how she is going to act. Do not back down on this. DS has a strong person in his corner and he needs that. You are MOM, no matter what she says. Yes she is mom but to have her put her insecurites on him now or at all is not the way to have a relationship in any way/shape or form.

TGM: nope -- nothing. Right now I cannot get into Myspace, since I am at work --- ssshhh.

time for some more dark chocolate.

[thanksgivingmom]

Agreed!

(Oh, sent it again by the way Leigh)

Heidi, you always make it SO clear that any issues you or J are having with his bmom are only specific to your situation, so please don't worry that you'll be upsetting anyone. Yes, sometimes we do get on the defensive when people speak in general terms, but (a) you're in the group, (b) you've been MORE than supportive of all of us, and (c) you get us as people and not as a collective group of "mistake-makers"

I mean, you hear us vent ALL THE TIME about amoms!

Hopefully things will work out so that J won't have to be in such a sucky position It's just not fair to him and I hope she realizes that soon

[zxczxcasdasd]

I have my moments of feeling different ways, but in a way I get it. I know how hard it is to accept that there's another woman, another mother, in your kid's life. I know how you have to grieve that and it takes work to be at peace with it and it can feel threatening at times. It's hard enough for totally healthy people to deal with sometimes. I can't imagine how difficult it would be to face the whole reality of adoption with the added difficulty of paranoia and without any kind of adoption-related support system. So she's fighting this...the whole thing. The sad thing is, it's a losing battle because it's reality she's fighting against and she can't undo J's life and if she can't accept his life as it is, she'll be the one left out. I wish she could understand that, and I hope she has someone in her life to help her understand and deal with it, because if not, then it's take 4 of the same story all over again...the whole reason I'm his mom in first place- which has been a huge blessing for me but a huge tragedy for her, and it seems like the same self-sabotaging patterns that created the whole situation are still in place and she's recreating the tragedy again when she doesn't have to.

BUT---We are not giving up yet. We made it clear that we are not cancelling anything until 48 hours before so if things change, we will still come out there. Hopefully, the time between now and then will be enough for some healing or assurance...whatever needs to happen.

Anyway, I'll let you know if anything happens. Until further notice...this is where things stand.

[browneyes0707]

Hey!
I've been busy this week, so sorry I haven't stopped by

Heidi, please feel free to share! I get it, and I know you do too. It's sad to me when insecurity interferes with relationships in life. Life's too short to worry about these things when you shouldn't have to. You have been so gracious and so accomodating of this woman, and soo sensitive to her needs. It's just a shame she can't see that this is ultimately about J and what his comfort zone is. And the whole thing about putting J in a position to choose, it's just going to backfire on her. It's sad.

And don't wory about raining on our parade! We have umbrellas

Hope everyone had a great halloween!

[lahdh4]

TGM: I am wondering if your email is getting thrown into my bulk mail and I just empty that. Because still -- nothing.

[thanksgivingmom]

it's gotta be that, because i sent it AGAIN this morning!!! unspam me darn it!! haha

I'll send it from my work email, maybe that will work...

[zxczxcasdasd]

Tomorrow is FRIDAY!!! Woohoooo!!!!

Anyone have any fun weekend plans? I am in the mood to let my hair down and just HAVE FUN this weekend. Maybe I'll throw a party.

[kakuehl]

Hmmm. Let my hair down and have fun... sounds like a great idea. I have a four hour confirmation class (We're feeding them lunch.) on Saturday from 9am to 1pm. Sunday is All Saints Sunday. (Doesn't that sound like fun?)

Now if I could just find my planning book...

Have a good evening all.

[taramayrn]

Hubby and I are going to a wine tasting tomorrow night. I'm not a huge wine fan so I'm hoping there is some good food there.

[thanksgivingmom]

AHHHHH, my HUGE event, the ONLY thing I have worked on at work for the past six and a half months is Saturday so I am completely and totally freaking out. EVERYTHING could go wrong and if it does, I'll pretty much be taking responsibility (aka the grown up way to say blamed).

IF I make it through Saturday I have a HUGE football game sunday when my colts take on Leighs Pats in the RCA Dome! Pats are going down!!! (okay, probably not, but it would really mean a lot to me if they did, so here's hoping!)

Just hoping I make it to Monday!

[browneyes0707]

GOOD LUCK with the event!

I have been trying to get together with my girlfriends since my wedding to no avail, first I had no car and then one of them is just moving into a house, so it's been hectic. So we are going to shoot for that.

I have my husbands cousins baby shower on Sat. I do hate baby showers for all the reasons birthmoms hate to go, but on top of it I've been hearing the faint tick of the biological clock which is scaring the you know what out of me!

Sunday I would like to watch the Colts game, TOTALLY rooting for them, as I hate the Pats and the Jets are just painful this year!!!

I'd really like to party at Heidi's! I'd like to let my hair down too!!

[lahdh4]

YEAH!! it finally worked and I have to agree A is a sweetheart!!!!

My plans start tomorrow morning. I am meeting a friend for breakfast in the am. Just her and I, she made a comment on her bday celebration a few weeks ago and with her schedule and mine this is the first time we can get together. Work tomorrow night. Watching a tropical storm come up the coast.

I have the theatre on Sat. last show of the regular season and the one I have been waiting to see all season: Les Mis!!!!!!! I am so wicked excited to see this, should be cool since the theatre is round so it is always interesting to see how they do it.
Sunday: work and laundry and try not to watch the game at all. Just flick through the channels is good enough for me.

I don't think I have anything else planned...........

[thanksgivingmom]

Oooh, Les Mis is great! And yes, Miss A is just adorable if I do say so myself

And Brown, I think it's a little out of your way to crash a party at heidi's....ME on the other hand!....haha, watch out!

[lahdh4]

hey no fair!!!

[keds]

Hi everyone! TGM - Best of luck with your event - I hope everything goes smoothly. My one daughter decided to come home this weekend so I'm going to spend Friday and Saturday - shopping with her! Dinner, drinks and then we'll see her off at the airport on Sunday. I wasn't expecting her so things are looking up!