[katlyn]

I have written my daughter for a second time since finding her and sending my initial letter in April. How many letters do you send, is there a stopping point? Do you just keep on writing and pray that eventually you'll get a response? I don't want to push her away, when is it too much?

[hollyhunter]

I'm really sorry Michelle, I really was hoping for you. Maybe she just isn't ready. That is a hard question. I have heard that you should maybe send a not every 6 months or on Christmas and birthdays just to let her know you won't forget her. For me though, I don't think I would be doing that because I think it would just keep hurting. I think I would want to go on with my life and maybe someday she will contact me.

[debimn]

If it were me, I would NEVER give up. There may come a day when she will feel the need to be in contact, but she has to be ready. If you sincerely desire the contact, just don't give up.

[katlyn]

If you sincerely desire the contact, just don't give up.

I desire it so much it hurts......like there's a knife in my heart and someone is turning it ever so slowly.

For me though, I don't think I would be doing that because I think it would just keep hurting.

I think it would hurt too, but if I don't then it still hurts....sort of a catch 22 I think . I'm going to at least send her one for her birthdays....to let her know I've never and will never forget the day she came into my life and stole a piece of my heart that can never be replaced until we reunite even if it is only as friends. As long as she's in my life again, I'll be content, yes even if it only breifly.....even if it's only a one time reunion....she's forever in my heart.

[InBlindFaith]

Oh Katlyn...I'm sending you hugs!!

Have you thought about making a scrapbook for her to help you wait??

[krielly]

Katlyn,
Not sure what you put in your letter, but if you do write again........and I would give it a few months.....
Maybe you should ask her to please at least acknowledge receipt of your letter. Let her know you definitely understand if she needs time/space to process things, but you just would like very much to know that the letter had been received........

Karen

[L@@king2]

katlyn - sounds like you are in the same boat as I am... I'm preparing to send a second letter to my bdaughter, as I don't believe she received my first one. Her step-mother signed for the letter that I sent directly to my bdaughter, so not sure if the "evil" stepmom gave her my letter. I'm now re-writing it, and will include it in a letter to her amom. I had these two ladies mixed up (stepmom & amom) in the beginning of my search - got wrong info!! So trying again to reach my daughter!

Good Luck in your search!

[katlyn]

I'm keeping you in my prayers....