|
Do you mean what helped us make the decision to adopt? For us it was our infertility and this overwhelming feeling that we wanted to be parents. Like we wouldn't be complete if we weren't.
If you mean how'd we decide on a birthfamily...that was a mutual decision for us. Our agency meets with pbparents first, gives them profiles of the families waiting (when I say families, I mean couples or singles) and allows them to pick a family to speak with and get to know to see if they feel the pafamily would be a good match for their desired adoption (closed vs open or semi open). We were matched a couple of times, and got emotionally close to a couple of pbmoms. However, the match that we were placed with, we were very close with both bparents during the match and we had (trying to continue!) a very amicable relationship. I'm not sure where we stand in their eyes right now, when I talked to bmom last night she was a little indifferent in talking with me which is ok, and I want her to do or say what she needs to in order to begin her healing, it was just a sad realization for me that it is different for her now that she has placed. And that means our relationship may be different, too. It doesn't mean it'll be bad, but this figuring it out is a little scary, we don't want to lose her, but support her decision no matter what she decides.
Anyway, hope this helps. I pm'd you, too.
|
04-05-2006, 05:46 PM
Linear Mode
