[LGC]

I'm sorry Hello & Goodbye...I read your later post and understand the original better now. L

[rhonda19]

Pray, let God do the finding, let God put you together...He brought my daughter to me after I let go of the "controlling" of the situation. God does answer prayers, but in His timing...I can't tell you how excited I am...my prayers have been answered. 4/20/06 at 10.15am my daughter called me. We talked for two hours, sharing alot...she wants to meet, she wants to keep in contact, she will call again she said...the day I have waited for for 20 years has finally happened.
Daughter given up: 9/19/1985
First Contact: 4/20/06

[cjmontanez]

Rhonda19,

I am soooo happy for you. My 3 daughters were placed about 23 years ago. So your story give me hope. And your right, it is God's devine timing. It's the only explanation i can phantom. It seems my search went quick. It was April 3rd, 2006 when I began my search, Although I've been searching for years. gave up for a while and upon returning to the search, got an answer for all 3 girls whereabouts in less than a day.
I mailed my contact letter to my oldest on Monday 4/24/06 while praying. lol

Take your time, have faith, and God will sustain the both of you.
and yes you can "tell us how excited you are". We just love to hear joyfulness.

God Bless
3 Daughter placed 1985
3 Daughter found 2006
first outreach 4/24/06

[BMOM&MOM]

Hello Teresa's Mom,

I am a birthmother of a 22 year old son...I am also married to the birthfather who is an adoptee...We started a search for my husband birthfamily when we placed our son...We did not marry until 8 years later...We finally found my husband's birthfamily...His birthmother did send him a letter telling him she would love to meet him...Unfortunately she died a week later. He did get to meet his birthsister(full sibling), we also were found by son adoptive family the same year even though we did not meet him for 5 years...Our relationship with our birthson is not that strong..He is only 22...

I guess what I am trying to say I did go to group counciling with other birthmothers..It did help me prepare..I am open, honest and excepting..He is still not ready but we are when he is...On the other hand I would never suggest you wait if you feel you are ready...If we waited my husband would not have ever received a letter from his mother saying that she would love to meet him...It was hard to watch him loose so much...
I too did not agree with hello and goodbye...It is hard to explain the reality when you do not know what it is...Take it step by step and always try to be honest to yourself and to your daughter....
I understand you not wanting to miss out on any more...I am still hoping for that day...I know he is safe and beautiful and that is better than looking into every face to wonder is that my child...I wish you the best of luck....

Cindy

[teresa'smom1987]

Obviously this is a very old thread (April 2006). I have continued to wait for my daughter to turn 21 (on April 2, 2008) in hopes of a reunion.

I have been given the sad news that my waiting was in vain. My daughter was killed in a car accident on December 14, 2005. I was told this information last night. My mother and Teresa's adoptive mother met at a retreat and put the pieces together.

I'm devastated by this news but wanted to thank all those that supported me in my waiting.

God bless all of you and I pray that your reunions will be wonderful.

[arlenes]

So sorry to hear of this news.... May god help to ease the pain. Take care of yourself!!!!!

[Jackiejdajda]

I have been given the sad news that my waiting was in vain. My daughter was killed in a car accident on December 14, 2005.

I am so very very sorry for your loss..

Jackie

[teresa'smom1987]

Thanks to those of you who have supported me. I will be meeting my daughter's adoptive parents on 12/28/07. I have so much to ask--so much I want to know. I'm nervous and excited to meet them, with a deep layer of underlying sadness. They have given me a photo album of my daughter from birth until she graduated from High School. She died about 6 months later. I know nothing about the car accident, but I would really like to know what happened. I have to give the photo album back, but they did give me some senior pictures to keep. They are still grieving as well.

Again, thank you to all of you who were supportive of me in finding my little girl.

Merry Christmas and Peace to all.

[Mommy24]

You are in my prayers today (((hugs)))

[Blessed2x.]

I am very, very sorry! Perhaps you can make a copy of the photo album at a copier store before returning it...

Best of luck with your meeting with the aparents.

[josh1788smom]

Just wanted to send you my support. I will be thinking of you and praying for your healing.