[angelleyes]

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Hi, this angelleyesI would just like to say thank you very much for your help,I hope to find my precious daughter whom I have loved from day one . thank you

[S Harrison]

I too am an adoptee and I cannot even begin to imagine the emotions of a birthmom.

I can only ask, from an adoptee from the 60's, please please please regardless of what you were told, the guilt, the grief and the whole galaxy of emotions.....Please register with the International Soundex Reunion Registry.

The stories here are SO heartwarming. One can sense the heartache, the emptiness and the pain.

I have three beautiful daughters of my own. The oldest died in 1993 at the age of thirteen. If I ever find my birth family, they will never have the opportunity to meet her, get to know her and share the joy of yet another grandaughter.

Please do not wait............it might be too late.

Your children are out there somewhere and they may be just like me.............afraid to contact you for fear of disrupting your life or worse yet destroying your life because no one knows about us.

The only way we can all be reunited if we are searching is for everyone to register.

Thank you for letting me share in this post and I wish all of you the very best in your search and the hope of being search for.

God bless each of you for giving a child life..............if you want to be found, please help us find you

Hugs to all,

Sue

[athollady1946]

hello susan, i'm new to this and just found this site, if you could find time to talk with me, i could tell you a bit about myself I gave up a precious little girl in 1968, she was born in the hospital in fargo north dakota, it was the hardest time of my life and i have never stopped thinking about her, I keep checking sites to see if i could see someone looking for her mother if you could give me a hand if you would'nt mind.
thank you
Athollady(sunny)

[S Harrison]

I am somewhat new to all of this too. There is a lot of great info on this forum both in the posts and in the chat area.

There are birthmom's in the chat that have been reunited with their children who are more than willing to share their stories.

In seems in most cases the children were the ones looking for them because bmoms from that time period seemed to have been threatened to never look for us.

I wish you the best and would be glad to hear your story

Warm regards,
s

[Cully]

Good Morning Ladies...
My name is Cully and I am an adoptee. I was born in 1947. The very best thing that ever happened to me was making friends with a birth-mother. You are awesome women who have been kept silent for far too long.
I would like to encourage you all to send for Non-identifying information about your child. There is often a ton of info contained there. If you have sent for it in the past, DO IT AGAIN. I sent for my Non-id in 1984 - it was pretty much non-information... then I sent for it again in 2004. WOW! this time it told me where my mother and father were from and that I had a brother. This kind of information is huge when you are filling out reunion registration forms. After you get the non-id register or update your info with ISRR (you can find them on the web www.isrr.net ). The ISRR is a free, non-profit, Mutual Consent reunion registry.
I wish you all the best of luck... my mother died in 1983 but I am still hoping to find my brother.
hugz,
Cully

[koshare]

hi susan...
maybe just a bit of advice...
i was barely 17 when i gave my son up for adoption, he will be 12 now in june. it was hard at the time but i knew it was for the best, i had not yet graduated high school and had nothing to offer him.
we have had a semi open adoption, i wasnt supposed to know names or locations. we were able through the agency for me to send as many letters and them as many pictures and letters to me for the first 7 years as long as we didnt give any identifying information. after 7 years as long as everyone was comfortable or compliant, we could continue with letters.
over the years (i dont know if the agency became more lax because we were so good about stuff) i pretty much figured out where they were and i knew they figured out where i was...and even what my name was...we almost had a special code between us.
just over 2 years ago, i opened a restaurant with my husbands family. i recieved a letter that week to my full name (which no one sends me stuff to, other than my family) which was from the adoptive family and included pictures.
there was also an email address. after a couple days (cuz i was freakin out a bit) i tried to email...it would not go through...i did a search on it and came up on a name that i was pretty sure was them...which my mom wrote to with no reply...
since then, we have had no contact...i know its because we are all scared of the unknown...
i have a letter ready for them but my only option is to send it through the agency...and i am scared they wont send it.
i know i have put this off way too long already and so that scares me that much more...i will try to send it through the agency though.
IF, the agency wont let me send anything...can you help me send them something just so i can say that im ok with any contact they do or do not want to have with me? either way i can deal, i just need to know...
thanks so much, mel

[suzz]

HI
I need help in trying to figure out if I should send money to the Georgia reunion registry to do a search for me. I have been looking and looking for my son who I handed over to a lawyer who was handling a privite adoption. I never saw my sons face because I was sedated for over 6 days. Now I find out that Georgia has started to do searches for a fee. Do you think I should try or wait and hope that maybe my son will search for me? He is 30 and so far nothing. Would you give me your opinion?

[marimari]

Suzz...have you tried the link noted above? the www.isrr.net ? It may help. Is there a possibility of some free agencies in your state? My son and I connected thru a free site in WI...they did state that donations were accepted to cover phone costs, etc.
Find out the fees..they may not be too steep..WI also had a $25 per hr fee for going thru paperwork and deleting info and copying. Sometimes, too, if you are having a medical issue, States will get in touch with the family member.
In the end, follow your heart...and best wishes.

[Christine Lynn]

I am a birthmother. How do you get the birth certificate with your name on and how do and where do you request the hospital records? I hope you don't mind me asking. thanks.
CL

[angelleyes]

You were asking about birth certificate,I dont have that and I dont believe I can get it because it was a closed adoption. I really dont now.
If you have any questions feel free to ask its nice too no there are others out there searching.

[Cully]

I am wishing all the birth-Mom's here a happy Mother's day with all my heart. You ladies gave so much to so many. I wish I could have said this to my Mom. She died before I ever found her but having had my records unsealed showed me just how much she loved me and my brother.
If you have never posted before - Thank you and keep posting here and everywhere you can. You can't imagine (oh sure you can!) how much it will mean, even if it is years from now, to find word of how much you love the child you never got to know.
Blessings and love,
Cully

[angelleyes]

Im so sorry too here about your news,and wish to say thank you for those sweet words.
God Bless You

[MizLady1980]

where and when was she born?

[angelleyes]

My daughter was born In Iowa City,Iowa 1985

[cindjoblac]

Hello Everyone,
I have not been on this site since 2004, as I have been lucky and been reunited with my birthson Byron. Boy, is it a wonderful thing. He is amazing. He has had a wonderful life and very loving and caring adopted parents. I have been fortunate enough to get to meet them and am going out to spend some time with all of them again next month. His mother sends cards, and sent me lots of photos of his growing up. But enough about that. I want everyone that is out there searching to never give up. I wanted to give up everytime that I hit a dead end. And there were lots of those. I even had some search angels help some and they would tell me where to look and what to look for and not look for. But you have to remember, we are working with stuff that most people do not want us to find, so some people that are search angels may tell you something that they believe is true and it not be. It is not their fault, it is what they are used to be the normal. One of mine got me a list of all the males born in Tarrant County, TX on Byron's birthdate. Then she was telling me which ones we could cross off the list for one reason or another, and one of the ones she told me to cross off was Byron. So PLEASE NEVER GIVE UP. Most of the adoptive parents are very open to at least meeting us, as we gave them something that they would have never had if not for us.

I am now on another search. My husband and his first wife lost 2 boys to SCDSS in 1994. The oldest will be 18 in October. I want so much to find them for my husb