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Old 04-04-2012, 05:42 AM
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I placed my little girl when she was 8 months old. She is now 12. I have since had three boys and can not have any more children. My husband and I want to adopt a little girl but have found it to be so expensive to go through an agency. Now because I feel like it will never happen I feel the loss of my daughter all over again. I even actually called my son by my daughters name. I'm not sure what it do... Is this something that will pass? I don't want to continue to feel complete sorrow for a baby I have not had and now sorrow again for the one I have lost...
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Old 04-04-2012, 08:38 AM
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(((Rahulsey))) Going through an agency is outrageously expensive, isn't it? Have you researched not for profit agencies? Have you considered foster care? Have you looked at The Dave Thomas Foundation? Have you looked into Parent Profiles? There are less expensive options out there. Don't give up hope yet.
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Old 04-04-2012, 08:56 AM
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(((Rahulsey))) Going through an agency is outrageously expensive, isn't it? Have you researched not for profit agencies? Have you considered foster care? Have you looked at The Dave Thomas Foundation? Have you looked into Parent Profiles? There are less expensive options out there. Don't give up hope yet.


Hi Gwen! Yes we submitted apps to foster and was told that they wont take our application unless we accept a sibling group or a child over 7 and I just cant do that right now. My youngest is 3 and i have a 6 year old .. wouldnt be right for them.. I plan to attend another foster to adopt program May 8th.. so I am crossing my fingers.. I looked at the Dave Thomas Foundation, I dont recall what stopped me in that direction.. I looked at the parent profiles and I need to start my home study.. I fear starting a home study and having no place to turn and it being for nothing and having to start over.... I havent heard of the not for profit agency...


Gwen you have always been so great! thanks so much! I know you understand... I was extremely taken back by the fact that I called my son ( Aidon ) by my daughters name - Adrianna.. Its not like I use the name very often and it just kind of hit me that my search has really caused me to mourn my loss all over again.. Did this happen to you?
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Old 04-05-2012, 11:28 AM
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There was a lot of things about adopting my youngest son that made me relive placing my first son for adoption. It was very emotional. My adoption with my older son was closed. Even though I knew the name his parents named him, he was always the name I named him in my mind. When he and I reconnected almost a year ago now, I had a very hard time calling him his real name instead of my name for him. I still have to be careful sometimes. I have never called my younger son by the older son's name or the other way around though.
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