[AnxiousMom777]

I am feeling so emotionally conflicted right now, I don't know what to do. I recently gave up my daughter 7 and 1/2 months ago for adoption, so I am dealing with that situation the best I can. Second, I was adopted a week or so before I turned 18, and I am now 24. The family that adopted me, basically turned me out after they asked me to give up my daughter. i was in a homeless shelter, they were unconcerned. I am now in Colorado, with my biological mom, who I hadn't seen in 12 years. She is the only one who seems to care about me. My problem is my adoptive family is now saying many hurtful things, and I do not know how to deal with it emotionally. Any advice????

[RavenSong]

Wow, it sounds like you're having a really rough time. So let me get this straight. Your adoptive family disowned you when you relinquished your baby to them? Do you have an "open adoption" arrangement with them, or have they totally severed all contact? Do you think they did this specifically to keep you out of the baby's life? Or did something else happen, like an argument?

It's hard to advise you without knowing a little bit more background.

In the meantime, are you safe where you are now? You said that you're living with your biological mom. Are things going okay between the two of you? Can you stay there with her for a while?

[NicoleP80]

My friend...I will pray for the best for you.

Raven~ It sounds like what she said was her adoptive family disowned her when she placed the baby with another family, and the adoptive family is the one who asked her to place the baby.

[RavenSong]

Nicole, thank you for straightening that out for me. I really misread the original post (it's getting rather late here on the West Coast!)

AnxiousMom, I'm assuming that if you were in a homeless shelter while you were pregnant, and your adoptive family wasn't helping you, that you were already having problems with them? Have these problems been going on for a long time?

When you say that they're saying bad things about you, who are they saying them to? Was this a "relative" or "kinship" adoption they did with you?

[AnxiousMom777]

Originally Posted by RavenSong

Nicole, thank you for straightening that out for me. I really misread the original post (it's getting rather late here on the West Coast!)

AnxiousMom, I'm assuming that if you were in a homeless shelter while you were pregnant, and your adoptive family wasn't helping you, that you were already having problems with them? Have these problems been going on for a long time?

When you say that they're saying bad things about you, who are they saying them to? Was this a "relative" or "kinship" adoption they did with you?

I was in a homeless shelter during my pregnancy, moved in with my adoptive parents 2 months before I delivered my daughter, and then after placing her up for adoption. I wasn't really having problems with them as much as they were just disappointed in me for decisions I have made. My daughter was placed through an adoption agency. My adoptive parents daughter is the one mainly who said these hurtful things. She is someone who has the mentality that she is better than everyone and tries to be the mom, even though she has trouble doing that herself.

[AnxiousMom777]

Thank you Nicole.