[christy88]

i just gave birth to a baby girl 5 weeks early. i did not start thinking adoption till right before i went into labor. my heart is pulling me both ways im scaird confused and just dont know whst to do.

[quantum]

Breathe.
If you can, spend some time with your baby. Don't make any final decisions while you're still on a hormonal roller coaster!
Adoption is a final solution to what is often temporary problems.
Why are you considering adoption?
Becoming a parent is scary stuff!
Talk about what you're thinking...
Listen to your heart.
We're here for you.

[LasVegasMom]

Christy 88,
Listen to quantum, but more importantly, listen to yourself. Adoption is final, you can't 'undo' it. Parenting is scary, but really think hard about your options. Think of adoption as a final option, after you have considered everything else. No matter what, you can't undo the fact that you are now a mother, whether you keep that baby or not, you will always be that child's mother. The question is-which is better for your baby-staying with you or with someone else? Think long and hard about this decision, and listen to your heart above all else. Good luck to you

[JustPeachy]

Christy, you don't need to make a decision right now. Take all the time you need to weigh ALL your options and see what kind of support systems and resources are available to you. You need to make a clear-headed, informed decision about what is best for both you and your baby. That cannot be done on the spot and under duress. Please take all the time you need and if you can get UNBIASED counseling, that would also be helpful.

[AlisonMarie]

My question also is, why are you considering adoption? If you DO want to keep your baby, there are ways, you just need to ask and become informed.

[Janeytwo]

Dear Christy88,

I'm just echoing what everyone else has told you. Is there a public agency in your State that you could call? Perhaps call a general assistance number and see if you can speak with someone there about what help is available.

You sound very alone. Could you possibly call your doctor's office and ask for any numbers they might have to assistance for babies? Usually doctors offices know the numbers to WIC and programs of that nature. That might be a place to start.

Oftentimes just having a number to call is empowering.

Hang in there and keep posting, okay? We're here! :-)

[christy88]

thank you for all the advice. she is not going to be able to come home right away. i have decided to keep her. she is little and is having some problems. thanks everyone

[cetalley]

CRISTY88....I am so so happy for you and darling baby girl. Cobgrats, and keep us posted...PLEASE? C.J.