[Rylee45]

I just wanted to let you all know the update on my mom.

She is still having problems with her blood sugar and blood presure but the past few days some sensations have come back. I'm so excited!

She started feeling one of her feet and the bottoms of both her feet, the back side of her knee, her behind, part of her stomach and parts of her back. I don't remember everywhere else she's started feeling but the doctor says these are good signs.

He said it looks like she's going to come out of this and start feeling her body eventually. He said to expect big changes this coming week. He said becuase her spinal swelling and spinal shock are going down and she's starting to feel things a little at a time, this is a good sign of things to come.

I'm SO happy about that right now. I haven't been able to go to the hospital to see her because of the snow storms and the hills we have to fight to get there but I've been talking to her on the phone a lot.

I've been telling my daughter about this and she's actually been keeping contact with me lately for the updates. She actually seems concerned and worried about my mom.

I think it's actually serious concern because she's actually asking questions and contacting me for the updates when I haven't just written to her. It's really weird.

I wonder if she's doing that because she thinks my mom is going to die and if she's nice and actually seems concerned there could be an inheritance. There isn't one but I wonder if that's why my daughter is keeping contact lately and seeming to be concerned and caring.

I just don't trust her. But I could just be paranoid because of past dealings with her. I don't know.

Rylee

[quantum]

(((((Rylee)))))

I'm so glad to hear that it's GOOD news for now!

As to your daughter, I get that you don't want to get sucked in again, but maybe just take it as it seems, concern for your mom! That's what you need right now anyway. Any ulterior motives, if they are there, don't really matter right now!

OK? OK!

Hang in there!

[Janeytwo]

((( Rylee )))

That's great news about your mom!! What a relief that must be for you and your family!! :-)

And I second Quantum on the stuff with your daughter.

One Day At A Time is the way to go!! :-)

Hugs to ya!

[stinky_kitty]

I'm so glad things are looking up for your mom!

[geogdeb]

Rylee,

I haven't talked to you in awhile. I am glad to hear your mom is doing better. Your mother is lucky to have such support during this difficult time.

I am also happy for you that your dd is keeping in touch. I know that things have been difficult in that department. Just be careful and hopefully things will work out. You are one tough lady! Please keep us updated and email when you have time.

Deb

[Rylee45]

Thank you for your thoughts.

I'm so worn out right now from all this. She's still doing about the same as the last thing I wrote. No really big changes like the doctor said there would be. Just little things but little things are better than nothing. I'm still very hopeful.

However, now she's got problems with her teeth. I have to find a dentist for her and take her to one. I'm scared to death because I don't know if I can transport her and then get her back to the hospital without a LOT of problems. They won't take her from the hospital for us.

They won't bring in a dentist either and we don't have insurance for that. She's got to have the rest of her teeth pulled. There are 6 left. She hasn't been to a dentist in over 10 years when she had the other teeth pulled and had dentures and a partial plate made.

She's been in so much pain it's pathethic and they put her on antibiotics. We can't afford a dentist who expects the entire payment at once, so we're trying to find one that will take payments or at least be sliding scale fees.

I just don't know what's next.

Then today we get a call that one of my mom's sisters had a heart attack and my mom is beside herself with grief right now. Her sister is possibly going to have to have open heart surgery tomorrow. We just don't know what's going to happen.

I sure wish the hurricaine and rain would stop. I don't know how much more we can all handle before we're all going to be in the looney bin.

Rylee

[keds]

Geez, Rylee, just when I am feeling sorry for myself I realize that people, like you are truly dealing with the worst of the worst. You and your family are in my prayers. Take care.

Kate

[Rylee45]

I'm so frustrated right now. So MUCH is going on with my mom and I don't know how to handle it.

That leg thing she had where her ace wraps were left all night (they are supposed to be removed when she laid down) and ended up with huge sores is now so bad that it's got celulitis starting and another infection. It's not healing and they are talking about sending her home! They were supposed to turn her every 2 hours to help prevent sores and didn't either.

I just don't get it! I just don't!

Then I find out that it wasn't only the night shift (one shift) it was TWO shifts of nurses who didn't do their job. The ones who started at 3:00pm to 11:30pm and the 11:30pm to 6:00am I found this out from one of the PTCA's who works with my mom. She asked me not to mention her name if I bring a lawsuit because she didn't want to lose her job or get in trouble for saying anything about what really happened to my mom. She suggested I actually bring a lawsuit against the hospital for what happened to my mom.

I've uploaded some pictures of my mom's legs. They are grusome so if you have a weak stomach I wouldn't look at them. This is all stuff that happened the middle of last month. It's only getting worse as the time goes on.

The one picture that is mostly bruised looking is the day they found this. The one with the bloody sore is the next day after that. Then the one with the infected looking leg was taken the 30th of Dec. The one of her foot is the blister area right after they found the bandages still on the next morning (Dec 16th).

This is just a nightmare none of us are waking up from.

My daughter has been keeping contact with me still about my mom and seems to be sincere. I sure hope so.

But now my daughter has a lot to deal with as well over on her side of the world. Her grandma just died this week. (Her adoptive mom's mom) and she's very depressed and not doing well with that either. She's been telling me, "I just can't handle another death. I'm going to keep praying for grandma (my mom) because I don't want to have someone else I love dying." and then she just cried.

I've tried to be there for her in this but I've had so much with my mom that I am not able to be there as much as I would like for my daughter. Her adoptive mom is not able to deal with it either right now so she's not being there for my daughter (which I totally understand) so she's pretty much left alone in this and I feel bad but I just don't have the energy to be there for her every moment I'm away from the hosptial with my mom. I feel really bad I can't be.

But anyway... I just wanted to update you on this situation with my mom. To see the pics (If this works right) you will need to click on the link to the picture. Warning they are not pleasant to look at.


Rylee

[SuddenlySusan]

Wow, Rylee...that's really horrifying. I am so sorry...
Susan

[lovemy2boys]

Rylee,

Just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you and praying for you all...

[quantum]

(((Rylee)))

[Janeytwo]

Rylee,

Those wounds look awful!! I hope you have secured an attorney!!!

Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

[Mommy24]

(((RYLEE)) No words of wisdom, just thought and prayers for you and your mom

[RavenSong]

Rylee, there is absolutely no excuse for your mom's pressure sores. The only reason for it is poor nursing care, period. Get a lawyer...

When a doctor orders a patient to be turned every two hours, that's what the nurses are supposed to do...turn the patient every two hours, no ifs, ands, or buts. This is just obviously a case of poor nursing care on the parts of both the evening and night shifts.

I would definitely file a lawsuit...

[susieloo]

Oh stay strong rylee. Keep telling yourself you are strong. I had to do this last year when things were bad, and it really did help.
I also think it is better to trust than not trust, even if disappointment follows. It is better for the soul.
Thats all really. I am a bmom too.
susie