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#1
05-09-2007, 09:25 PM
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What do you do to make it through Mother's Day time of year?
Since in just a few days is Birthmother's day and then Mother's day, I was wondering how everyone's holding up. I know I had a checking in thread earlier, but wondering how everyone's holding up again now that it's even closer.
Also wondering what do each of you do to help you make it through or cope with the Mother's Day time of the year? Do you have a hard time or are you alright at Mother's Day time and what do you do to help cope if needed at this time of year? Is there anything I or we can do to help any of you with this time of year?
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#2
05-09-2007, 10:42 PM
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Anne,
Thanks for the note. I'm dreading this year as it is the first year in reunion - taking it slow - and I know I can't get my hopes up and expect a call but part of me really is hoping for one. Let's hope the logical side of my brain rules. Most of the time I just have a good cry on Bmother's day and then spend Mother's day with my 2 daughters enjoying the fact that I have them in my life and they are great! All the best to everyone and I appreciate knowing if I have a meltdown there's support here. I'm so glad I found this website. 
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05-10-2007, 06:40 PM
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For me, Mother's Day is a double-whammy.
I was adopted at birth and raised by a verbally (and occasionally physically) abusive alcoholic mother. I HATE going to the store and trying to find a card that DOESN'T say "you were a wonderful mother, you were a great role model...etc". I try my hardest to find one that just says "have a nice day." Being a birth mom makes it that much harder. On April 23rd, I got a call from my CI. She'd talked to my daughter, but we're still waiting to see if she wants contact with me. I'm waiting until next week to call the CI back to see if she's heard anything. I guess I'm hoping that my daughter will call on Mother's Day, but being a realist, I don't expect it. So, I'll spend Mother's Day the way I always do: thinking about my bmom, thinking about my daughter, and loving the kids I have here with me.
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Amy  4-23-07--CI spoke to my DD, waiting to see if she wants contact! 5-17-07--DD consented to "anonymous contact" 5-29-07--DD consented to email contact 5-31-07--First email from DD, she's awesome! 10-09-07--Still emailing constantly, hoping for phone call soon! 1-23-08--Got to tell DD happy birthday!! (in an email, but better than nothing!!)1-24-08--DD signed email "love" (first time!!) 1-30-2008 STILL looking for birthmom
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05-10-2007, 06:55 PM
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I'm usually OK, but I do find myself this year a bit on edge, maybe because this is the first year I know about DD and how she's doing and have had contact with her a-mom. I will be busy this weekend with things (wedding, doing brunch for my mom) so I hope/think/pray I'll be OK!
And if not I'll just stalk the boards till someone talks to me, LOL!!! 
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#5
05-11-2007, 01:21 PM
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I go to a bmom's day event on Saturday and cry my eyes out, then I'm usually good to get through Mother's Day.
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05-11-2007, 01:33 PM
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This year has been my hardest in a long time. I'll be concentrating on my Husband this year as his birthday happens to fall on Mother's Day. Previous years have found me doing whatever necessary to keep busy and keep my mind off of things.
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05-11-2007, 01:39 PM
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I have always tried to keep my mind off if it and pretend it's just a normal Sunday and go about getting the laundry done.
I'm not sure how I will do this year since I came running out of the Birthmother closet this year. I guess I'll play it by ear and see. It feels good knowing I have awesome support here. 
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05-11-2007, 06:08 PM
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I will be seeing E tomorrow and would much rather stay at home under the covers and forget about this whole weekend.
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05-12-2007, 02:20 PM
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Big (((HUGS))) to everyone...I hope everyone's hangin in alright so far with Bmother's Day today and Mother's Day coming tomorrow.
Remember to come to chat tonight at 9 pm CST or Monday night at 9 pm CST if you need some extra support or some chocolate and comfort food to help you out with this weekend.
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05-12-2007, 02:52 PM
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I'll be there, but mainly cause my fiance went fishing, LOL!! I also want to be there to support anyone who needs it, I've got the wine and a shoulder to cry on!
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"I don't know if I could go through it all again For what's the point if you are never free to say This is what I believe This is a part of me No hero, no regrets But only meant to be" -T'Pau
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05-12-2007, 03:37 PM
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I'm taking a bottle of wine to a friends house for a boys poker night (although somehow I am included, not sure why...) but it will be all grunting and poker and my wine so I'll be all distracted (hopefully).
I'll try to be there Monday night. Hope you're all getting through the day
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05-12-2007, 06:41 PM
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