[Xdad]

This did occur to me a while back. But, if there was an adoption...in this case, my daughter... shouldn't I have received some sort of document? I have very vague memories of this, and absolutely no documents indicating that the adoption went through. Although I would never look to take custody from her Dad, but it is beyond me that if there is a legal document that I signed, why don't I have a copy.

I called some dept of records in the state where this occurred, and they told me that I have no rights?
I have no right to review what I had signed?
Is this something that nobody questions?

[Dickons]

XDad,

This is the reason why birth parents should always have their own lawyers and that should be legally required in my opinion - always.

There is an article written by a former NJ family court judge that would be good for you to read as it explains what happens. If you go to the adoptee forum and then media for adoptees you will see a post called "Due Process?" that has the article.

In the article it states that the surrender documents may have had waivers that took away your rights to know anything further about your child once you signed the paper and that includes whether the child was actually adopted.

I am sorry if that was what happened in your case.

Kind regards,
Dickons

[quantum]

I don't have anything either, don't recall ever getting copies of anything. Nothing.
I know it's not uncommon for birth mothers. I would think it would only be worse for birth fathers.

It's a travesty.