[snuffie]

No, this man was not adopted and I did at one point tell him that if he would send me some pictures of himself I would leave him alone. I have kept that promise in that I have never mentioned that I think he is my bdad again but as I've mentioned, I've sent him cards and letters at least once a year.

He sent that book to me about 2 years ago and I've not heard from him since. I did write to thank him for it and also wondered how he knew of this book etc.

It is all a mystery. One that I may never find an answer to.

Thank you for thinking of me.

Snuffie

[rainmon]

so, just wondering....did he ever send the picture?

[snuffie]

Yes, he sent some articles that had been written about him. He is a war hero and he sent the pictures that were published with the articles. My youngest son looks very, very much like him. In my letters I included a photo of my son that I thought looked the most like him. But I still haven't heard anything now for about 2 years.

[rainmon]

Have you sent any "thinking of you" cards lately? do you think he could be ill and not able to write anymore. you did say he was elderly didn't you? you have not been pushy....it could not hurt anything to try again.
Is it posible for you to get ahold of a city directory in his area, and call or write a neighbor using his address, to locate someone across the street or next door to that address and write or call, saying you are a family friend and very concerned about him & his health and ask how he is doing? a well check so to speak.... when it comes to an elderly person, people may open right up out of "their" concern for him also.

[snuffie]

I did send my usual Christmas card and letter and some photos. That is really all I can do because I think he would see anything else as an invasion of his privacy.

[JustPeachy]

Is it possible that he moved or (I hate to say this) is deceased? Sometimes mail doesn't get forwarded or returned properly. Being elderly, he could be in nursing care somewhere else and the letters being sent to the address you have are being tossed. We have lived in our home for over 5 years and still get mail from the previous owners. I know you don't want to intrude or disrupt his life, but the only way you will get your answers is if you investigate further.

[snuffie]

That is a good question. I don't "think" he is but your post got me to thinking. Does anyone have a subscription to an online obituary search??

I just don't get a "feeling" that he is deceased. He stopped corresponding after I mentioned that I thought he was my bdad after sending me that book and a letter telling me that he didn't think he was because my bmom never mentioned me to him. (There are reasons why she wouldn't have but I didn't go in to that.)

Anyway thank you. I'm going to do some further discreet investigating.