[tlkn_2amie17]

i have been given direct contact info w/ my bdaughter. I have been in contact with her daily for the last 7 days. she is 17, and only lives 3 hours a way. we want to meet. her aparents know we are talking, but they haven't said much to her about it. i am elated and feel guilty at the same time. they are great ppl and have raised her well. i don't know what to do, i never wanted the adopt, but it was for the best. her bmom has had almost zero contact, i have written many times and we have exchanged pics. she grew up knowing she was adopted. now we're "together"again. am i wrong in wanting to know my daughter? i don't want to interfere, but as i said, she is 17, and all me, poor girl. she wants to know who she is. how do i ask the aparents? hey, thanks for raising her, your great, now i want to meet her. i'm lost and hurting bad, all over again. i need some advice. thank you.

[bromanchik]

At this point you need to be thinking about what her parents want as well because she is still a minor. Have you talked to them about it? What about a "family" meeting, where you all get together first?

[tlkn_2amie17]

thank you for your response. i have been in contact with the aparents;they are the ones that sent the direct contact info. now, the good news. i spoke to the aparents tonight. they are fully cooperative with a meeting. in fact neither side can wait. do to obligations this weekend is out. we are currently planning to meet the weekend after. i can't believe this is happening. this is so great. there is only one "person" to thank for this, i will be sure to do so everyday to the best of my ability. i will be posting in the reunion thread from here on out. god bless all, and good night. good night baby girl. i love you.

[Rylee45]

I think that's great that you're being reuninted with your daughter.

I wish my daughter's birth father would have wanted some type relationship with her because she really needed her dad but he met her once then skipped out again and we've never heard from him in the past 10 years since meeting our daughter.

I think it's so cool that you are so involved in your daughter's life. I hope the reunion face to face goes well. I will be waiting to hear all the details.

Rylee

[Xdad]

Luck-eee! I am waiting for a response to a similar situatio, but I don't have any contact with my daughter...I could, but she is 15 and That is her parents decision right now. Congrats!!!!!

[hubertw3]

You are lucky...this will work out in the end. My birthdaughter is rejecting me after I found her in January...she is 19.

Look, you aren't trying to replace them...you are something different. She has a mom and dad...you are not that...you are a birthparent...different role. If you can make them understand that, you will go a long way I think...put yourself in their shoes....most people will respond the same way.