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Originally Posted By cora

I'm at my wits end, hoping we're doing the right thing. Actually I KNOW we are, but was hoping to chat/connect w/ anyone else currently in the same boat. I am finally placing my daughter for adoption, getting her away from my psych abuse (more like hurt, but...) and the yrs of phys abuse from my ex (now deceased). Its the best thing for her I know, and she knows too. She's 8, and she wants this too, a new start.

We're working w/ an agency to place her, and we've found a great family who wants to always keep us in touch. Only 1 drawback-agency doesn't EVER do older kid adoptions, ours is uniqe. I want so badly to connect w/ other families out there who have chosen open adoption for their older child/s. But can't seem to find any. Help! and thanks

[sammytiffee]

hi try welfare they have foster adoption and sometime ther foster parent want older kids my kids are adopted by foster parents i hope you have better luck then i did

[brat11170]

I know how you feel, I have been throught about the same stuff. I have two boy that have been adopted out, but it was not an open adoption. It was throught DFS. My oldest well me 18 in December, I have not seen him sence November 2001. I know where he is, but not allowed to see him tell after his 18th birthday, that's the A-parent's wishes. My oldest is a half brother to my other 3. My second son turned 16 in June. I know where he is to, seen him last Christmas. He was adopted by a single man, he takes (T) to my sister's when ever he wants. Even if the A-parents don't want you to have anything to do with the child, you can wright letters to the child and send them to the DFS worked, have to place them in the child's case file and when the child turn's 18, they ask the child if they want the letter or not. At least that way the child knows the parent didn't just forget about them, and that they do truely love them.