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Originally Posted By Kate

I adopted my stepson a few months ago the biological mother is completely out of the picture by her choice. My son has no desire to see anyone in her family. In the past while in her and biological grandmothers custody he was physically and mentally abused and extremely neglected. He is seeing a child psychologist who is telling us the absolute best thing for his mental and emotional health is no contact not even on the phone with biological mom or anyone in her family. The biological mom is no problem considering she made herself disappear extremely quick. We have not heard from the biological grandmother in months and now all of a sudden she is calling leaving threatening messages on our machine. She says she is going to force her daughter to get her parental rights back and she is going to take us to court for grandparents rights. Is any of this possible? I was under the impression that once the adoption was finalized bmom could never get her rights back and that the grandmother lost her rights also. Will the court allow the biograndmother any visitation even if a psychologist feels that it would be detrimental to my son? If anyone has any advice please respond! Thank you!

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Originally Posted By birthmom Jamie

You better get a good lawyer. I dont know the answer but I will pray for you & your family.

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Originally Posted By Brenda

Oh, Kate! I am so sorry! What a nightmare! I don't know the laws, especially since they are different in each state. I understand that here (in TX) when a b-parent relinquishes rights, he/she is doing so for his/her entire extended family. That is my experience and I am in the process of a stepparent adoption (hubby is adopting my daughters).

I have had the opposite situation. I have older daughters, 11 and 15. When b-dad gave up rights, I encouraged grandma to stay in their lives. I only wanted her to do so because with my girls being older, and this being their grandma...I didn't want them to feel twice rejected...b-dad rejecting was bad enough. She chose to step out of the picture though. The kids are hurting, but will be okay I'm sure.

I really feel for you. Since several months have passed since your post, I am very curious as to what is happening in your situation. I do hope you sought some legal advice. I feel pretty strongly that the birth grandma cannot break apart your family, legally. I know that it will be very stressful for your family, however. It is hard enough to make major transitions in life without the added turmoil.

I would like to know what you have learned, since your post. I don't think this person will be able to retrieve any rights...her daughter signed those away for her...at least, this is what I understand to be true. Let me know!