[sis_searchingfor_bro]

Long story short: I found my half brother (finally), and was incredibly excited about it. I actually found his information from the registry on this site. Since he was previously searching for his (I guess our) birth mother, I assumed he would be excited to hear from his half sister he didn't even knew he had.

Turns out he was (and still is) pretty hesitant about it all. I can see how he wants to look into it all himself because you can't just trust anyone that says, "Hey I'm your sister."

I understand he needs his space and time to think about things before he calls us or meets us. I just do not understand why he's all of a sudden changed from searching for us to hesistant to communicate with us.

I'd like any insight as to what is going on in his head. I feel for him and I'm trying to understand, but I'm just so excited and happy to learn he's had a great life. I just want to meet him so badly!

Any advice or similar stories?

[txrnr]

I found out last summer about a (possible) biological sibling and my friends can't understand why I woudn't look for them. If I search, I'd want to find bmom first. I have no good reason why, that's just they way I look at it. Maybe your brother feels the same and he was expecting to tackle that relationship first.

I hope he comes around!

[JustPeachy]

I was always open to reunion and felt in my heart it would eventually happen and would certainly welcome it. Then when I received identifying info, after being initially overjoyed, I got very overwhelmed and anxious. A lot of feelings came to the surface I did not expect. Totally threw me for a loop. I needed time to process everything. That could be what is happening with your sibling. I'm a firm believer that reunion should go slowly. It's so easy to get carried away, but IMO it's better to slow down, even though the waiting does stink.

[sis_searchingfor_bro]

Thanks for your imputs - I am relieved to know that how he's dealing with this is normal. I guess I should just patiently wait for him to come around. Rushing into this probably isn't a smart idea anyway.