[birdeez4]

Well, over the weekend my mom told me she is moving 5 hours away to be closer to her placed daughter. She says she owes it to herself to get to know her placed daughter better and to spend more time with her 'other grandchildren'. Placed daughter is 'thrilled' that she will have 'all her parents' nearby and in her children's lives.

So that's great for them. But on a totally selfish side -- what about me? What about my child? Are we chopped liver? I guess like everything else in the relationship I'm supposed to just be happy and understanding for them.... BTW, up to this point, I would have loved to have a relationship with my placed/bsis; she was the one who didn't want one with me.

I'm so totally lost about this. I don't know what to do or how to react or how to tell my child that his grandmother has decided to leave town. I'm incredibly hurt...

[bmomto2_momto2]

Wow... I don't know if I can find any words adequate to respond to this. I suppose on the one hand I can see your mother's point of view. However, as a mother myself, I know I would have wanted to try to make some sort of plan with you also. I would never want to gain something with one child at the expense of another. I just recently made the decision to move out of state for education purposes and my soon to be 18 year old daughter did not want to go. I almost decided to stay because I couldn't stand being so far away from her. However, she has decided to go after all so we will never know for sure what I would have done. My children, all of them, are my life. I hope that you can find a way to have a talk with your mother and work out some of your feelings and concerns.

[Jackiejdajda]

Sometimes the emotions need to be sorted in a more intense way.. Some things we just do not understand..

Your mom may need to learn something.. she may need to sort something..
I am sorry that you are upset.. I make sure I read the posts written by siblings and I learn..

Difficulty accepting newly discovered half sister

I don't know if you have read this thread (link above) but I think the issues are similar..

Jackie