[bon]

I gave up my son 18yrs.ago !
I still have anger toward my so-called
'loving family' ! telling me they will have
nothing to do with me---if I decide to
keep my child---I was 24yrs.old---for
godsakes---they should have let me make
my own decision,and given me the
emotional support that I needed very badly !
needless to say---we've grown apart---
and it doesn't bother me too much !

Patrick's birthmother,
Lori Weis

[Montraviatommyg]

Join the club and I understand exactly how you feel. I was younger than you, I was 19, but I was emotionally and financially capable of looking after my son yet it was my parents who were adament he was adopted. Still carry the memories of being told that they wouldn't support me (if I kept him), would make sure nobody else would, I would be kicked out, they would make sure I didn't get alternative accomodation .... the list goes on. Yet the social worker thought they were 'such loving parents' who just 'wanted the best for me' and that my baby 'would be better with a two parent family' . To add insult to injury my son started searching for me in 1999 when he turned 18 and found my family quite quickly. Not only did they not tell him where I was but they didn't tell me they had contact with him .... long story so he thought I didn't want to know him and that they were covering for me. Last year I found him so you can imagine how I felt about what they had done particularly as my sister had told him lies and half truths about me. My one bit of satisfaction is that my son and I do have a good reunion against all odds.

Pip

[bon]

If I was ever LUCKY enough to be reunited
with my son,I would not want him around my
biological family ! They don't deserve to
meet him !

Pat's birthmom,
Lori Weis

[Montraviatommyg]

Maybe we should start up our own unique club , my son now hates my sister so doesn't have anything to do with her at all and doesn't have much contact with my parents either. That's my other bit of satisfaction as well .

Pip