[robinnewlin]

I need help. My 10 yr old son is staying with my sister this week and he asked her why his mom gave his sister up for adoption. He also asked why we kept him and not her. He comes home this Sunday and wanted to be at least a little prepared for his questions. Its bad enough I just explained the birds and bees to him since his father, ny ex was to chicken to do it. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks to all Robin

[condetti123]

I am a birthmom too and also from Georgia. What area of Ga are you in? We are about the same age. I am not sure of your story on your adoption of your daughter eight years ago. Was it a closed adoption? When did you tell your son originally of the adoption of her. It looks like from your profile that he is a few years older than she is, is that right? What was going on in your life that made you feel that the adoption was the best option for her? Not trying to be nosy, just trying to see your situation better so that I may be able to guide you in how to explain to your son about it better. I just now sat down yesterday to finally tell my 12 year old son about my daughter's adoption 16 years ago. It was a closed one. I knew that I had to tell him and soon, with him going into that puberty thing soon. It was so hard to tell him, but I did and I know that it was the right thing to do. I will have to tell my other two children as well soon but they are only nine and seven. Depending on what your circumstances were at the time of her adoption would determine what might be said in explaining your decision to him. PM me or reply back with a little more information on the adoption placing of your daughter. Thanks. Hugsss!!!

[robinnewlin]

My son is 10 and at that point in my life, my ex and I were on our way to a divorce, he had cheated on me and I wanted out. Well I started seeing someone and ended up pregnant but I didn't know this until after my ex and I had gotten back togethor. I ended up having the baby with him(not her father) and he said he could never love another mans child. It was either give up the child or divorce. So I opped for adoption. On her birth certifcate his name is on it not her real father. She (grace) will be 8 this December. As of now I am divorced from his father and her father, I have never seen or heard from since he signed the adoption papers for me. My son Jon was with me the whole time I was pregnant, when he was small I told him I was having a baby for someone who couldn't. I was hoping that was going to be enough answers for a while, but now I am getting married to someone who has 2 kids and he keeps telling them he has a sister. Its hard for me to talk about it but I know he needs to know the truth. My sister called last night and said he was asking her al kinds of questions about his sister and she wasn't sure if I had told him that his dad was not her dad. I know he has lots of questions. I just went throught the birds and the bees with him. This is alot to handle all at once. If you have anymore questions let me know. By the way I live in Norcross moving soon to Lawrenceville but am orginally from Indiana.

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