[jo.]

hi everyone,

I'm new to the forum. Bit nervous really. Guess i just need to know I'm not alone as a natural mother in my 20s.

I'm English and there doesn't seem to be any British forums so I'm turning to you Americans. I suppose adoption is not as much as a taboo as it is over here. Anyway, I am 28 and gave my little baby boy up when I was 19. I've met other natural mothers in the UK but none who are my age.

I gave my baby up in an age where single mothers are accepted in society. Not in my case though. My parents are leaders in a christian church and so the pressure, shame and humiliation was unbearable. I supposedly made the 'right' choice to give my baby up -bringing joy to a family.

I wish I had been stronger and kept my baby.


I'd love to hear from other natural mothers in their teens or twenties.

[Juscuz]

Hi Jo, I'm not in my early teen.......how I wish, no I take that back, I wouldn't know what I know now or done what I've done back then. So age sure does help with the thinking process.

I'm sorry about your plight, I know I'm a bmom too. Not in a similar situation though, my parents allowed me to make my own decision, and that was just as hard too. I know it doesn't ease the pain any, but I guess I just wanted you to know we are together. We all share the same feeling. In time,when your child is old enough, maybe you will come full circle in that you will be in search of or in reunion with. I pray it comes true for you cause there's no greater joy in that coming *full circle*. It's truly a blessing.

My heart goes out to you, keep the faith and stay strong. Years go quickly, it will soon be time to make a decision.

Aloha,
Debbie


In reunion with bson December 22, 2003
bmom of Justin

[mom2maya]

I'm 29.. well.. I'll be 30 in less than 2 months, but I'm going to hold on to that 29 for now.
I placed my daughter when I was 18.
You're definitely not alone. As for me, I've been really fine with my decision for a long, long time. Fortunately for me though, I was not coerced in any way and I felt no pressure. It was really MY decision. But, given the intense feelings that have been bubbling up for me lately, I really can't imagine the pain you must feel if you went into this unsure and now have regrets.
My heart goes out to and I hope you can find peace. Just talking and posting about it really can help. If you'd like to talk more, feel free to email me.
Take care,
Carey