[Dixierae]

what happens when everyone is back togather, then things just stop no calls letters nothing

then what do you do when you try your best with birth children and nothing works tired of being depressed all the time, thanks

[sspete]

Dixierae......Why I certainly don't have all the answers for you, would it help if I told you I know exactly how you feel!!!! My bdaughter and I have not yet talked on the phone and we are going REALLY SLOW with reunion, but she has not written me at all in 2 1/2 months. I have accepted the fact that she is possibly just not ready for all of the emotional upheavels involved as she is only 19. I do however begin to wonder what I should do and how I should do it. I have made a decision to write her short notes about once a month to let her know I am "still" here. Her feelings are my number one priority.....I do wish however she would let me know if she wants me to go away or does she just need time or what???? I think the NOT knowing is the hardest part!!!!

Sending ((((HUGS)))) to you, as I know you need them!!!!

Staci

[KittyKitten]

Not to sure of what you are refering to here. But maybe keep sending "thinking of you" letters and cards. Maybe life got full or more confusing than your child thought it would get. Just keep the lines of communication open, you never know.
Kitty

[Dixierae]

Staci,
thanks for the hugs, they were very thoughtfull, my daughter and I had a realationship for a short time then everything went bad, but Ive let her know how I feel so as the saying goes the balls in her court, she had 2 sons when I found her, (SORRY SHE FOUND ME) ON MY 40TH BDAY. now she has 4
Ive missed all there births and her wedding but her bdad did give her away at her wedding
you sound like a nice person I wish you well with your daughter, its going to take time isnt? thought the waiting before was bad , well again thanks for the hugs, Ill keep you posted and I hope youll keep me posted as well, God Bless

[sspete]

Your Welcome....Please Keep Us Posted!!!!!

Staci

[FatBirdy]

Staci said: I do wish however she would let me know if she wants me to go away or does she just need time or what???? I think the NOT knowing is the hardest part!!!!

I wanted to respond to this....I would say that in this case - No news is good news. Since she has not told you to go away I think she wants you to stay. Since she has not contacted you, she needs more time. I think it's a lovely idea for you to write her a letter every month, it will be something that she can count on and she will always know that you will be there for her. I don't think that is too pushy and over time it may help her be able to trust you - that you're not going to leave her again. (that was an issue for me and my bmom - I was afraid to get attached in case she decided she didn't want a relationship with me).

[sspete]

Thanks Fatbirdy!!!! That is what I have read into it also.....I pray that this is the case!!! Thanks for the feedback....IT HELPS!!!!

Staci