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Originally Posted By Flyer48(Terry)@aol.com

I placed a child for adoption in 1968. February of this year we were reunited! I found out his name located him three years ago. For me the search was not that difficult. Doors were opened to me and God truly spoke to me through others. I wasn't a
deeply religious person, but I know these things to be true. It was a miracle the way that things unfolded...truly! I held that information in my heart and did not go forward. I waited for a number of reasons. Much though and prayer was needed before I knew that the time was right for all concerned. Since our reunion I feel as if I am the most blessed person on the face of this earth. My loss, pain and sorrow has been replaced with joy, peace and contentment. Our reunion was picture perfect and I want to encourage all of you who have felt the heartfelt loss of a child. For your reunion to be successful I think that both parties need to be in agreement. Please don't show up on someone's doorstep. I began the initial contact with my son's adoptive mother. Her response to me upon hearing that I was her son's birthmother was "This is what I have been praying for." She told him of my call giving him the opportunity to go forward or not. Fortunately for all of us, he wanted to meet me and we have gone forward with a fabulous relationship that is rich and full of love. I also think that the fact that my son is in his 30's has a lot to do with the success of our reunion. When searching you might think about the possibility of rejection. While that is a possibility, please go forward and take that risk. Not only do I have the love of this young man, I have a wonderful daughter in law and three young grandchildren who call me "Mimi!" I also have a very special friendship with my son's adoptive mother. My other two children also have a new big broter. Because of my successful reunion, a very dear friend of mine began a search for her birhson three months ago. One week ago she met her 35 year old son and things could not have gone better. Again, he is in his 30's and the reunion was facilitated through a third party. There are so many of us out there with the same stories. The pebble has been tossed into the pond and the first ripple touched my dear friend's life and that of her birthson and I am hoping that this message sends a ripple your direction. Have faith that you will probably be recived with love, affection and respect. I have received so much validation for giving life to my child and for making the ultimate sacrifice for his happiness and well being all those years ago. Go forward slowly and take that chance. It will bring you more happiness that you could ever imagine! Good Luck & God Bless You!