[Found at last]

I have no one to blame but myself. I let myself down. I know now that I should have grown some backbone and stood up for myself. So if I have to forgive anyone first, it would have to be me. I have been trying to forgive myself for about four years now. Its been a battle - some days good - some days bad.

My daughter told me that she feels no anger for being placed in adoption. After hearing her adoption story from me, she said "You did the right thing", but sometimes I wonder about that too.

[kakuehl]

I'm not sure any of us can every be 100% sure we've made the right decision. Mostly I'm sure I made the right choice for D and for me, but sometimes I wonder! The hardest for me was forgiving myself for letting myself down in terms of the stuff I said I'd never do! (I learned Never to say never! LOL)

[rainmon]

Yes, that is a very profound quote, I wonder who wrote it.
sometimes I feel the past in our reunion is preventing our relationship from moving forward, if my husbands b-daughter holds on to the past hurts of being placed for adoption forever
I don't know how we can have a happy future.
it seems we are stuck, waiting for her to accept the past, just let go and move on. and I don't think my suggestion of getting counceling would be welcomed, but I think a third party to help her through this would sure help her.
I wonder if I sent her this quote, if that would feel to her that I was out of line. any suggestions, I just wish I could help her in some way.