[DFNY]

Kathy, thanks for sharing your heartfelt and beautifully written story. I am so glad that you and D have reunited and that the families (both adoptive and birth) have grown together. Ironic that D has all these pastors in his life & that his bfather and afather actually roomed together at one time. It would have been wonderful if J had lived to meet D as well. Thank you for sharing all the emotions involved. My 2 yr old son was born in Guatemala and it seems unlikely that he will be able to meet his b-mom (at least, it may be a lot more difficult but who knows how things will change in 20 years). I have her photo of when the DNA test was done; unfortunately, nothing else really. I pray for her and hope she can find some comfort in (hopefully) knowing that her son is well cared for and loved beyond words. However, her not having any way to contact us or we her, makes it so sad because she will never really know how he is and how he turns out. Thanks again for sharing your story and may God continue to bless you...

Damaris

[kakuehl]

Demaris - I know that some aparents think it's a plus that the bmom can't find them, but I think it's rather sad. As I've said repeatedly, I don't want to take the place of D's mom. Being welcomed as a part of his life has certainly enriched mine. Enjoy every day with your two year old - they grow up so fast!

[rch4hvn]

Thanks for all the encouragement . I will be patient and try not to be angry, because I know, with GOD as my Saviour he will help me find peace with this and hopefully help D Find his way to understand everything and open his heart and let me in ...just....a.....little

[kakuehl]

Michele,
Waiting can be so hard! I pray that God will grant you shalom (that peace that is much more than an absence of conflict - peace that is complete and whole.) Love him no matter what, and place him in God's care.

[echambers]

Kathy thanks for your suggestions for readings during advent. We are on the way to China to adopt our little boy (2) and bring him home. I'll read Matthew on the plane and while I am there. In Him.

[kakuehl]

Congratulations! May you have smooth sailing (in the air and through the whole adoption process!)

[neilsmum]

wow what a life story, very similar to mine. Ive only read the first part to your story and looking forward to the rest. My son was taken from me as well and like reading stories of male adoptees.
until nest time.

[neilsmum]

HI there, i love your reunion story. Mine started similarly. i have had to stop the reunion with arents becuse im finding it very hard to see others have my son when i should have had him . May be im not mature enough to handle them but they have also been manipulatibr and abusive to me. IM hoping my osn who will be 23 in jan 2009 want to keep contact with me. Heres hoping. Gives me courage when hearing your story.

[Janeytwo]

Kathy,

Your story is so poignant. You are a graceful woman my dear friend. :-)

[padnar]

Originally Posted by Wizard298

Yes, I totaly agree. That is what brought me to read her post's I have a good asumption by who people are by there post's and she is a very gentle loving person with a big heart

I forgot to post this some people wanted me to post this cause they could not find the thread I made about the phone conversation I had with the first contact
I found my boyfriends birthmother! An emotional story

Here it is in case you wanted to see it

what yu say is true ? by reading post itself we can find if a person is helpful .
padma