[Montraviatommyg]

What is/was the most important thing you want/did tell your relinquished child?

The most important thing I wanted to tell my son was that I always loved him even before he was born.

Pip

[Found at last]

I want my daughter to know that I have never been ashamed of our situation. I was proud that she found me and that will never change. I miss her.

Found at last

[SchmennaLeigh]

I'll need to ponder this one for a bit.

I'll be back.

[mamabee]

It wasn't supposed to hurt like this.....

[sunnyfromNY]

I wanted my son to know that I had always thought of him and that I loved him over the years. I also wanted him to believe that he was just as important to me as the children I raised.

[vera19]

Well there are many things i would want to tell my birthdaughter...its hard to think of just one.

The first thing i would say though would be that i have always loved her, and that she has always been in my heart, and not a day had gone by that i didnt think about her.

[sal]

I hope one day you can say that to your daughter...and she will be as thrilled as I was when I heard the very same words from my bmother. We will have been reunited 5 years in June..... sal

[vera19]

You have no idea how nice it is to hear that from an adoptee. Im so glad everything went well for you. Its good to know that i have some hope taht my birthdaughter wont hate me. Thank you so much

[katlyn]

I wish I could remember what I said, but I know that I must have put down how much I loved her and would always love her. Before my daughter was born, I wrote her a letter, I tried to say everything at that time I could think of that she might want to know. Of course I was only 16 at the time and I can remember how strange it was writing a letter to my unborn daughter. Many times I've wondered if they gave her the things I sent with her, whether or not they still have them? Did they give her the letter I wrote her, that took me so much time and deep soul searching to write? I sent a teddy bear and made her a blanket, I hope they still have them for her. Now that I'm 20 years older and wiser, my feelings are still the same. I want my daughter to know how much I love her, how there has been a hole in my heart since the day she went away, only to be filled by our reunion. I want her to know that the from the first time I held her to the last time I held her in my arms and kissed her sleeping little head are forever etched in my mind. She was and will always be my baby girl sent to me from heaven.

Michelle

[Patty-cake]

J. is my son by birth and shared history.
S.(step-daughter) is my daughter by shared history.
T. (step-son) is my broblem-child by shared history but no less loved.
You are my baby and always will be by birth and though you think we have no history we do. I fought to get you into this world-yes even in pre- Roe vs. Wade America. I wanted to keep you but in the end gave up convinced that it was best for you and knowing that it was not best not best for me. I have prayed for you since the day I found out I was pregnant and will continue to do so until I die.
Patty- cake