[Montraviatommyg]

I am loyal to adoption.com due to all the support I have personally received here in the 21 months I have been a member. It has been important for me to give something back even if what I say just helps one person. During this time there have been some great discussions, not so good ones but generally it is a good place to come to. The friendships that shine through are another positive for me so long may they last .

What are the positives here for you?

Pip

[eastendmommy]

Having a 'safe haven' to come to each day and draw strength from others who understand. It's been said that only members of the adoption triad are truly qualified to offer up their support...to fully understand the path that you have walked upon...to be in a position to offer the very best advice. That, my friend, is so true! Never...and I mean NEVER have I 'met' such wonderfully understanding people as I have met right here...who are quick to respond when you send out an emotional SOS, ready to offer their words of wisdom when you need it, and maybe just a shoulder to lean on...or cry on, whichever is the case!


I would be in the fetal position in the corner of my room if I hadn't discovered this place! Thank you all! And drooling...


Hugs, Tammi

[mamabee]

I have to agree with you and Tammi! When I need to vent...someone is here to listen; when I need to cry...someone is here to listen; There are some really good people at this forum. I hear there are some bad ones too...but I just don't read their comments....ha!

You gals have become my friends...I care about you...and I know you care about me. Big Hug ((((((())))))

[rainrain63]

Agree,


This place has been great for me. I say that nobody understands adoption as much as this place and the people who come here.

It is a truly special and unique place.

S.

[cyberskitzy]

As an adoptee using this site from way back when I first seriously considered searching it has been great. The level of content and positive people that are freely willing to assist you and listen is amazing.

Firstly, not only did it help me with the overall decision to search, but when the time came for me to make the first initial contact the level of information that the site contained from peoples own personal experiences was fantastic and it became my best friend for quite a while for a researching point of view.

Secondly, it is a great place to share and express ideas and to (which will sound weird) belong to your own little community of like minded people in most cases that are all intertwined and surround by similiar issues and circumstances.

On a personal note, to all the people that have taken the time not only read my posts, but also to reply and to message me with your assistance, "Thank You" it has meant more than would probably ever know.

[kakuehl]

I've only been here since September, but I have appreciated the support, and those people who are able to "hear" what I am saying. I also feel like I have found a few new friends.

Blessings,
Kathy

[kakuehl]

Oh, I forgot to add... I found my bson the first day I was here!
Kathy

[Jessiedo]

This was the first online group I have ever joined and I definatley view it as a life-saver. I have received TONS of education and support on this website and have met lots of wonderful, caring people. I see the same thoughts in my mind being posted by others and I know I am not alone. Altho' friends IRL try (and often times think they do understand) they simply cannot understand all that adoption and reunion entails.

Also, I am very happy that moderating does exist on this website. Not saying I have a 'lilly-white' background on other forums, but I clearly see what happens when there is no moderating and it is not pretty. I think those types of "debates" are best battled out of the public's eye via private emails/pm's. Without moderation, heated discussions (some, not all) rapidly deteriorate into the furthest thing from support and education.

[Poleczech]

For me, being able to see things from the point of view of the other two sides of the adoption triad has been invaluable to me. I think (and hope) that it will make me a better (adoptive) mother.

[StorkWatcher]

THE SUPPORT from people who understand what we're going through. It was the only "formal" support group we had while we were waiting to adopt.

Most importantly, the chance to learn from all the birthmoms/firstmothers out there who are willing to share their feelings and help us to see things from another perspective.

And advice from other parents on raising children!!!! That's very helpful for us first-timers.

[Montraviatommyg]

Thank you to everybody who has responded do far as a.com has been knocked recently and I really appreciate that this has been a positive thread. I am a positive follower of this place due to support and friendships I have made.

I love you all

Pip

[Juscuz]

We are all here for a reason, and touched by adoption on this site for one reason or another. It has been god-sent for me not knowing where to turn, what to do, and what steps needed to take to even begin. Being a bmom, it was a time in my life that I felt if it came to be then I'd deal with it then.....never imagining in my wildest dreams the emotional roller coaster you are on when it actually becomes a reality.

Others in the same boat, or can share their feelings being on the other side absolutely helps walking this journey. knowing I am not alone in my thoughts and feelings make this trip alot less easier to handle.

Mahalo to everyone!

[vera19]

Well there are quite a few positives for me here.

1) Getting different perspectives from different people(aparents, adoptees)..since i am a birtmother.

2) Relating to other birthmoms..since i dont know any in person.

3) Giving advice to other people..is a good form of therepy for me.

4) Knowing that other people have been through what you have or what you are going through

5) Just feeling safe that you are not alone.

There are alot more reasons why i love these forums...but too many to think of and list..

Thank you everyone for your continual support

*hugs*

[Jackiejdajda]

When I come here I know I do not have to do a mental hyjinks in order to communicate .. I love the mental hyjinks tho.. but not here..


Jackie

[reunionspouse]

I remember life without being a part of this forum and I can say that life is much better with it.

I have not found another site that welcomes so many, from all directions of the triad.

So much comfort can be found here.

Blessings to all who participate as well lurk around the edges.

Karen