[mamacrina]

Since you can't get too many hugs...here are some more:

[Montraviatommyg]

With all my lovely friends here how couldn't I be happy .

Can't escape having his name mentioned though as he was talking to my dh's cousin after our falling out and has given him a different version of what he's up too . My son told me he was coming to England then going to Spain for a week, back to England and finally back to Canada spending a total of 10 days away. However he told my cousin in law that he was going to be away for two weeks ...oh boy he'll get his facts right one of these days .

Still, never mind I've got my chin up and keeping busy so I haven't got time to be sad .



Pip

[MKW]

Hi Pip,

I've been wanting to post on your thread all week, but it's been a really full week for me, and I didn't want to write just any ole thing - I wanted some time to put some thought into it.
Dear, dear Pip - I'm just so sorry you feel like you need to take this drastic step. But you absolutely need to do what keeps you safe. And it also makes me very sad that so many are going behind your back, trying to influence your b-son. I just so wish he was a bit more of a mature 24 that he could stay commited to you and the reunion. But please don't forget, guys just don't mature as fast as girls, and it takes them much longer to figure out what they do want from life. Trust me, I'm not trying to make any excuses for your b-son - I guess I just somehow want to give you a little piece of hope.
You are so good to all of us - how I wish he would allow himself to know you the way we do. Stay with us - we'll keep you going - just the way you have with us time and time again.

Much peace dear.

MK

[katiedid4]

Dear Pip

I was so saddened to read your post. Although I have been a member here for a while now, I have not really contributed much at all as I was so lost in my own pain. But Pip your posts always for some reason drag me to read them. I always look for yours and feel that they are the ones I need to read to help me.

I do not know you Pip but I can tell you from what I have read that you are a kind, generous, honest, forthright, loving compassionate soul. And these attributes can not be hidden behind the anonymity of a computer screen.

I pray that your son will come through this and happiness will be in abundance for you. I wish I had the answer for you to help, but I too have met my 22 yr old son and 1 year after reunion he sent me the goodbye letter. So I am probably the last person who can offer you good advise

I am so sorry Pip that your heart is so pulled and torn and battered.

I think you are wonderful, and hey I don't even know you.

Take care Pip

Keep the faith

Sending a huge hug from NZ (((( HUG ))))

[Montraviatommyg]

Mary Kay and Katie,

Thank you both, I'm taking each day as it comes though my faith helps a great deal. I've been fairly busy during the week so my son may have upset me but I am not letting that stop me from carrying on as normal . It does help to share as it's given me a cyber "kick up the butt" that I shouldn't wallow and just get on with life. Good thing I've got 4 fur babies that love me ... Katie , that's my 3 dogs and a cat...they know my moods so seem to know when to make me laugh. Today they had a mad 1/2 hour racing up and down the hallway which is tiled so they were sliding all over the place.

Pip

[katiedid4]

Dear Pip, I am so glad to read you are ok. LOL about those crazy 4 legged best friends.

I have 1 large canine baby 63kgs of silly, mad, drooling love and 4 smoochy lovable feline best friends. God i have no idea where I would be without them.

Max ( dog) knows exactly when I am sad and literally licks each and every tear from my face.

Just love the thought of the hallway capers, slippin and slidin, probably knowing it makes you laugh.

Keep laughing Pip

Take care you

Kath

[JoEvans]

Hey Pip

[tigger636715]

I, too am sorry to hear of your change in reunion. It's ok to step back and take some time to re-evaluate the situation. It's too bad that others need to say things that are cruel and unnecessary......sigh.....

Just know we are all here for you. I, too, rarely post on the froums but wanted to let you know I am here for you too.

Hugs and I wish you the best in your healing process....males often (as others here have said already) take more time to decide what lies ahead for them in the reunion process.

Take good care!!
Cheryl

[Found at last]

Pip,

My heart goes out you. Dealing with my daughter has been very difficult too. Sometimes I feel that she has judged me and then never bothered to tell me about her decision to pull back from me and my family.

Your fellow birthmother,
Barb

[hummeryellow]

Pip,

come on out you can't hide, it is not healthy. I know how you feel I got kicked to the curb and though it hurts life does go on. So come on out and talk about it you don't want to go back on the meds, so come on out and let us help you.

Hugs Mary-Ann

[Montraviatommyg]

Mary Ann,

I'm not hiding promise just been lurking more than posting lately. On the whole I am feeling much better than I was...been going through loads of emotions and now getting on more of an even keel. Must be the weather improving that's helping as I'm always happier on warm, sunny days .

Pip

[janiej]

Good for you Pip. Here's some extra hugs, since I haven't sent any for awhile.

I have to agree, the spring weather does make things seem a bit brighter. Let's hope we can all keep this attitude for a long time. The hurt is always there, but hopefully, it will lessen a bit each day, and we can enjoy the GOOD stuff we have.

Like you, I have been lurking more than posting. Just nothing really to say right now. Know that I am thinking about you, and will never give up hope that your son will "see the light".

[Montraviatommyg]

Thank you Janie , whilst there is breathe in my body I wont give up hope that he'll see the light .

Pip

[Patty-cake]

Pip- I too spent years post adoption regaining my self estiem to be totally deflated during and after reunion. I will pray for you. -
Patty-cake

[Patty-cake]

Pip, I am sorry. When my daughter broke things off with me my husband e-mailed her without my knowledge not to get back in touch unless she could be positive because I I had been through enough for so many years. I would not have written that myself but it was kind of a relief to know that if there is a next time things will be better. Right now I send cards to her and gifts for the kids. The thank-you note after Christmas had a warmer tone so I have hope. Wishing you thebest!
Patty-cake